So I'm dating a total hottie, and have been for a year, but.... Her personality is just too different from mine and I know that we won't have any long term potential. She's a little bit rock and roll and I'm a little bit country, if you know what I mean.

I've tried ending the relationship several times, but she knows that she finally found a great guy and doesn't want me to get away. Can anyone point me to resources of how to end a relationship with emphasis on leaving her better than I found her. I've read books on how to approach, close, continue the relationship, keep things exciting, and such. But I haven't been able to find much resources on breaking off the relationship. Especially when she wants to stay together and I don't. Thanks.

Having given that quote, remember that you are not in this LTR for HER, nor are you in it for YOURSELF, you both are in this relationship for the betterment of BOTH OF YOU, in other words, a partnership. If it's not working for you anymore, then end it and be done with it (in a polite, gentlemanly way, of course!).

Sometimes the best way to say "it's over", is to just say "it's over".

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one way that i do it is by emphasising a smallish problem. the best one to work on is long distance. you complain about how far away she lives. of course this wont work if your living together or she is a block away.
every time i start emphasising the long distance and difficulty of the relationship, they start to think about it and then overthink it. within 4 to 6 weeks they break up with me. i am yet to actually have to break up with a girl. s'awesome!

Why string her along for 4-6 weeks? Thats 4-6 weeks of both your lives that you will never be able to get back. Life is too short for games like that.

Darkst0rm tells it how it is. If you don't want to be in it, tell her. This is the best thing you can do for her and yourself. You don't have to be an arsehole about it, let her down easily, give her your reasons. Then you can both move on happily.


wowo

why is that of such big importance to you?
EXACTLY!!!

Be a man and just end the relationship, and don't invent excuses say what you really think and feel

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

....which is the whole point of PUA inner-game to begin with!

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Leaving her better than you found her is by cutting things off quick, and if you did a good job during the relationship than she will be better than before.

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Don't hate, just dominate.