Ok, so i have been seeing this girl for 4 weeks now. I have been flirting with her etc, playing mr mean... i get her in the mood so shes comfortable with me saying things like... wanna suck my dick? :p , etc... worked well.
Then went out with her a couple of times, she was worried about me getting with other girls etc... so we both decided to only get with each other
At first i just wanted to fuck and chuck her, now, i had sex with her a couple of nights ago, i do really get on with this girl and like her.

Shes playing more... text me as soon as she wakes up etc.. and being nice, and i have started to be nice latly, but... how should i take it from here?

Should i start being nice how i want to be? or keep up with being flirty? I don't wanna lose her or fuck it up. Im afraid if i start being nice she will get put off....

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Law of Attraction

Be yourself. That sounds corny, but the truth always comes out in the end.

What I mean by that, is that you can't make a fake personality that you live by every day of your life. No one can. Girls can even sense it. That's why we work so much on inner game: because we want to be the best possible person, and that's why chicks get with us.

The only way to take it from here is to use your attitude. With me, no matter the situation, I'm still funny and flirty with my girls. That's who I am, that's why girls like me.

So in answer to your original question: choose whichever method suits your personality. If you want to be nice, and you're afraid it will put her off, you probably shouldn't be with the girl. If you want to keep playing flirty, you can, but if that's not who you really are, you're going to lose out in the long run.

Long post, sorry. PM me if this still isn't clear.

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Don't hate, just dominate.

sounds right.

It is kinda the first relationship iv been in, in a long time, and its making me misurable being away from her... and me texting her alot makes me seem far to kean. Im just trying to make it spontaneous but its hard.

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Law of Attraction

There is nothing wrong with being nice and giving value to her.

Playing Mr mean at the start, negs etc builds attraction. Now that you have attraction with her you don't have to be an arsehole to her and keep trying to build attraction. If you do this she will just start to think you are an arsehole.

Having said that it is still good to playfully tease her, you don't want to be totally boring and be nice to her all the time.

Be nice to her, show her you care, and build that connection with her. It's important to not be needy though. When you do nice things for her or say nice things to her, you're doing it for her benefit.

wowo

Just enjoy the wave... I think this one will grow to a relationship by itself

good luck

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"