Hi Guys,

I have a girl I met at uni come and visit me a couple of weeks ago and we went out and ended up sleeping together. She is coming down again tonight and wants to have a night in just watching dvds with some wine but I know that one thing will lead to another.

The only thing is this I don't want to lead this girl on in thinking I want a relationship because at the moment I just want fun and also I don't want a long distacne relationship. I only came out of a relationship a few months back and now I'm enjoying been single for the time been.

Do I:

a.) Just fool around with her and have fun
b.) Let her know I don't want a relationship and see what happens
c.) Let her know I don't want a relationship through txt before she comes down
d.) Make up and excuse for not meeting up.

I just don't want to mess her around cus shes a nice girl but I just don't want to settle down and have a girlfriend SPAM.

Thanks

C and D are out of the question.

Go for B, don't say it when she is entirely cold. Warm her up, generate more attraction, start some seducing.

Then say something in the context of wanting her, but not a relationship.
Don't let it sound realy cracked up and weird, then it will just be a turn off.

See where it goes from there, she should just be turned on so much, that she will just jump you anyway.


She will be turned on and you kind of throw in some LMR.
Like; God, I want you so bad. But you might not wanna get into this, cause I'm not realy looking for a relationship.

But she could be looking very forward into having a relationship with you and be realy dissappointed.
It's a tough one you realy need to calibrate and throw it in on a good moment, not to get much disturbance

I disagree, when it comes to relationship bullshit, dont bring it up. Play your game, do your thing, and if she wants one let her bring it up and when she does, let her down gently. Tell her you just came out of a relationship and you want to be single at least for a little while. She will more than likely understand.

-Sleye

Thanks for the advice guys

Much appreciated!

I also don't think you should bring up the relationship issue. If she asks, then don't be an asshole about it-- just tell her that you really like her, but you are not looking for anything serious-- you just want to have fun and enjoy her company.

If it doesn't come up, then let sleeping dogs lie. She might just be looking for some sex and friendship, too.

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