Hey guys

i have a question.

about 3 months ago, I was LJBF'd by my ex girlfriend. First she wanted control, then I gave it, then she dumped me. lol i felt so betrayed you have no idea.

so I got LJBF'd
after 2.5 weeks of no contact i contacted her again, light convo, she liked it.
after 3.5 weeks, we met up. she was all flirty with me. trying to get me in the pocket again. lol it worked cuz in the end when i showed her affection she kinda ditched me again.
the next day i called her desperately multiple times and thats when i screwed up.
then it was silent again. then that weekend i called her again multiple times on saturday night cuz i was afraid she was gonna have sex with someone else. she didnt answer the phone driving me CRAZY!

i really screwed up there. acting desperate and needy.

anyway i knew that it wouldnt work if i would act desperate or needy. so, i waited again. and after about 1.5 months since i got dumped i started to gain trust again and become her friend.
I was stuck in the friendzone.
then I asked her very politely to not have sex with anyone else and she went SO MAD at me. she nearly kicked my door in to get her stuff that was still in my room. she screamed "you asshole! Why else do you think I DUMPED you !"

so lol, yeah.. I told her I didnt wanna see her again and she said FINE! And she left.
2 days later i sent her a text to ask if she wanted to make things better.. no response..

that was a little over a month ago.
since then NO CONTACT, 0 contact.

about a week ago I posted pictures from me partying on facebook. Think that hurt her a little, but not enough to get her back.


I dunno what to do anymore.
I know, let go, move on, gftow.. but i dont really want all that. I just wanna have her back.

Im also still mad at her, cuz she knew it was really gonna hurt me if she would have sex with someone else. she did not tell me though but im sure she had sex.
Before she broke up with me i told her she looked like a slut. She said that hurt her, and i took it back.
I really wanna tell her what a slut she is now, but friends of mine told me not to do it since it would look weak and break the no contact rule. what do you guys think?

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...Oneitis much?

I'm not sure if this is a joke or not, considering you have a couple hundred posts, but I'll answer the question anyway.

Move on with your life. Go out, have fun, go fuck ten other women, and forget about your ex. She'll probably want you back at that point, and by that point you probably won't want her back. That's generally how it goes.

hahah thank you afcroyal

and yes i am being serious

i know big time one itis..

its just that i invested so much into that relationship, both emotionally, physically and financially. overall i think 3 times as much as her. and when i stopped doing that she basically dumped me
Im a bit screwed up in my head because of this because I thought there was trust between us and that our bond wouldnt be broken that easily. Also I thought we were best friends.
She does not even contact me.. not even hey how are you.. nothing. I've seriously lost my sanity almost a few times. I even talked in myself sometimes cuz i had a hard time dealing with it mentally.
She was my first girlfriend though. And I know there are lots of other fish in the sea and stuff. but nonetheless it hurts like hell.

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Give it some time mate, i know what you're going through. Take AFC Royals's advice, it really does get better....MUCH better. (ps. i talk to myself all the time!)

The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else

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See it this way, do you want to be played? Do you want to pull the strings and be in a fair relationship with a girl who respects you or have your strings pulled to her liking?

Definitely one-itis, we've allhad it and been there. You've got to get in field, start seeing other women, and pushing against your boundaries.

This girl clearly isn't worth it, I know this will hurt, I've had it said to me.

The reason she is the way she is with you is because she knew she could get away with it. Time to flip the coin, your no mug.

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thanks guys..


i regret fucking it all up, you see i could have prevented all of this. I was just blowing things up deliberately cuz i was sick of the fighting and powerstruggle. and now i cant get her back and my confidence is gone, which i had so much of before lol.

well thats life i guess.. Im trying to move on with pain in my heart..

If this can be a lesson for you guys: When you are in a fight with your girlfriend. DONT give up. Dont give your balls away.
Dont give in either.

she will crumble down, cuz if you crumble she will leave.

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Wow man I could not have said it any better msyelf. Im in a similar situation, except i don't take no for an answer. I am like a mad scientist working madly to turn peanuts into oil

QUOTE ME ON THIS

I will one day successfully create a method to get your ex back regardless of how you were before or how long you were together.

Dude ! hahah ! High Five!!

seriously, i was sick of her so i was kinda over it. but when she really REALLY left me.. I wanted her back, and that caused some inner conflicts inside of me wearing me down mentally.

lol anyway, i do know how to get my ex back

you see, it takes time!
If I wanted, I could slowly work my way back in, getting LOTS of heartache, cuz she would string me along, in the mean time fucking other guys, risking to be friendzoned again and basically giving my balls away forever. being her personal lapdog. but eventually i would get her back cuz i would be very persistent, none pushy, old companion.

but i dont want that fuck it! It's summer where I live, I wanna go out, no heartache, get beautiful women's ass. The only downside is.. my ex girlfriend will get guys' ass too you know. thats where my heartache is coming from. and with that thought in the back of my mind combined with her not chasing me is really ruining my confidence! cuz its MY girl god damn it!
but thats not true, she WAS my girl. but my emotions dont understand that yet.

anyway
I am walking now, I mean, I walk away from her. We both dont contact each other. I know there is still something there, i mean feelings for me. but a lot less than i have for her.
so basically i hope i can get mentally fit again by next friday cuz thats when im on a holiday to really get some hot girls' asses ! :P

after the summer, im gonna contact her again lol. im 80% sure i can get her back. But i do miss her, really bad, so, its wearing me down emotionally. i look and feel like shit SPAM.



but basically what i know is if you got friendzoned, you just walk. fuck it.
if she comes back, the tables are turned. If she doesn't wait a little longer, then slowly come back to her

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

If you DHV yourself enough, and the girl knows your good material and something good about you, she will always come back, whether it's 1 week, 1 month or a year later, she'll be in touch. Girls get hurt more than guys, remember that!

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You sound as if you are an intelligent individual, yet oneitis got you going crazy for a girl--she can sense that kind of stuff. I was in a similar situation where a female did not want to give me the time of day whenever i was chasing her, but when i ran away and she felt as if she was about to lose me, she came running to me. I learned from this experience from this type of female that one needs to have other women in one's life because then you do not become engulfed in any one female's life.
For real, desperation is so unattrative and unseductive. As soon as it is shown, the person's value lost is exponential. It takes so much to recover from that. As someone commented before, the way to recover from that is to get with so many other women that you no longer want that one you wanted before. There are so many available women that once you taste others, the importance that you place on this particular one will disspate exponentially. That is when she would b able to notice that you are no longer that guy who was once so desperate.
OMG, you say to continue fighting for something. That is so wrong! There is a limit whereby once you cross the line she knows that you are a CHUMP. I myself barely fight for a female's affection because I know how much they covet it from me--I am the prize and if they mess up, fu*k them. A man must not show more pain in a fight than the female, unless it is done to get a certain point accross which will help in the seduction process.
When you develop into a person who can clearly be indifferent with the opposite sex, not showing desperation of any kind, that is when you become desired more because they sense that you can have other women. Desperation makes a female think that there is something wrong with you since if you had someone you would not b so desperate.
It is so interesting how when someone has oneitis they are blinded by the fact that the only cure is other women (or hobbies that take you away from such thoughts). Like how could you think she is going to react if you are not with her and then you tell her that she cant be intimate with another man. I know that that is what you want. But by telling her that, you are telling her that she should save herself for you but you give her no reason but your desperation to wait for you. It would be better if she had a clear reason to want you, and what better reason than that you are desired by many other women--her jealousy will compel her to want what others covet. And still then, you cannot give yourself to her too easily; u must challenge her so that she wins you as if you were the prize...

Good post mate, and well said.

We've all been in the position, it's a learning experience, sure it hurts, but it's what makes us stronger, the hardest part is walking away and thinking fuck it. That's why personally I just remove all contact and be stubborn.

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your hurting yourself man, really try not to think about it, i know its hard, im in a similar spot now..

Head up, let her be the one who suffers in future, not you!

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yeah good post lorenzo, thanx man


Chelios It eases the pain to know that i'm not the only one, or the first going through this shit.. thank you man

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies