Anyone have any tips or info on solo sarging?

All my guy friends are in relationships and don't go out often, so I have a hard time finding people to go out with.

The past year or so I've kind of fallen out of the game, I've been dating here and there, but mostly women I've met online. (no problems there!). Time to get back into the real world, I think.

I want to start going out more, and picking up my game, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it alone. There are alot of small bars and places with live music around here, and those are the types of places I'll be going. I'm not big on the club scene, and I find those places too loud anyway.

Anyone have any tips?

Thanks!

It's an idea to prioritise getting a larger social circle before actually going for closes.

So go out (always go out) and not only look for possibly closes, but look for regular friends as well. (Guys & Girls)

--- --- ---

When sarging alone;
-Look comfortable when you're not in set. (walk slow, confident body language,..)
-Do not **** around with your cellphone every 5 minutes.
-Stay out of your head (in-state). I always had the tendency to go inside my head when I was out alone.
-Get in set ASAP. (guys/girls whatever.)

State is very important when you're out alone. By staying outside your head, and not making any time-draining excuses (cellphone, another drink, bathroom), while trying to stay in sets as much as possible, this should be handled.


Good luck,
-Zero

Yeah I'm in a similar position man.

Have posted several times on Solo sarging FR's

Check them out.

I'm a Brit so some of the language may be different with you guys.

But yeah, essentially it works.

I'm really working on it as it's a crucial part of my game, not having to rely on flakey friends and taking my destiny in my own hands. Stepping up and Manning up.

As my man says, it's all about body language when you are not in set, always be doing something and look as if you are having a whale of a time.

Sitting on your own , looking glum , playing with your phone is going to have you DLVing and make you look like 99% of the other guys in the bar.

Be the 1%


Scamps

Thanks for the tips. I did a few searches after posting and found more info on this.

Scamp, I read a few of your FR's, good reads.

That's one thing I need to work on, I DO find myself F'ing with my cell phone too much, whether alone or out with friends. Just something I do when I start to get bored.

As far as expanding my circle of male friends, that's something I want to do, I'm just not sure how to go about it. Seems like when out, single guys arent' really receptive to talking to other guys, I actually had a guy say "dude, WTF do you want?" when I tried to strike up a conversation at a bar.

As I'm writing on this I'm just remembering that I had good luck a few weeks ago talking to a couple. I got along with the girl really well, and talked to the BF enough as so he didn't feel threatened. A buddy of mine and I were out (his GF actually let him out of the house, haha), and we started playing pool with them, and the conversation started from there.

Maybe I ought to get into sets like that, who knows, maybe the girl will have some single friends that are around, or showing up at some point. At the very least, I have someone to talk to and can put up the appearance of not being there alone.

My sticking pint is that while I have no problem talking to people once I get into a conversation, it's the initial approach that poses the problem. I'm not the most outgoing person, so that initial contact takes alot of mental effort on my part.

Oh well, it's something to work on.

I live in a great town for this, as it's a big summer destination, so there are always tons of people out, even during the week. Half the pople in town are tourists or people that just live here for the summer.

Yeah approach can be difficult at first.

I find it easiest when I get in a social state. The minute i get out of the house I try to interact with people.

Anyone, the bloke driving the bus, the guys at the cashpoint, the barman, the group i passs walking down the street.

By interaction i mean anything from a full blown convo, a few words, or even a genuine smile.

Try and have at least two interactions before you hit your first venue

genereally the first inreactions of the night can be pants, so why waste them on fitties?


Scamps

You might like this...(old, but cool)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rN6FwGTf ... =1&index=4

[quote="the scamp
genereally the first inreactions of the night can be pants, so why waste them on fitties?


Scamps[/quote]

Ok I gotta ask, what does this mean?? I'm not up on the Brit slang I guess. I know "fit" is hot, I learned that on The Inbetweeners (I frickin' LOVE that show) so I get fittie is like hottie, but what does "pants" mean?

And visionxxxx, thanks for that link!

There was some helpful info and some good ideas in there. I love the bachelorette/girls night out point, where I live pretty much any bar you go to on any given fri or sat is going to have at least 1 of those there, and usually more.

The Inbetweeners has made it's way over there? Rock on!

lol

Fitties - Hot chicks
Pants - Bad, Rubbish.

To be honest one of the strengths of solo sarging is that you can interact to your hearts content without out the guys you are out with bitching that you are always leaving, talking to random people.

Lets be honest, most of the guys we go out with on a night out, are definitely NOT wingmen. Sometimes they can help your game, but a lot of guys act as an inconvenience at best. Just read any number of field reports, loads of AFC mates..

Yeah, I caught it on BBC America a few months ago for the first time, and loved it so much I found the episodes online and watched both seasons worth. People are slowly discovering it, every once in a while someone will tell me about this hilarious English show they just saw, and sure enough, it's the inbetweeners.

You know, the more you guys are saying about going out alone, the more it makes sense. My friends are def not wings, and some of them come off downright creepy to women. Only friend I have that is good at this is a little TOO outgoing, he'd end up inadvertantly AMOGGing me in every set.

Yeah, I'll def have to give ita shot this week, and I'll be sure to write up a FR.

Definitely give it a go man, and posting a FR would be awesome. I find the genuine ones the most useful posts on here