Hi!

I'm pretty much new to the forum (I just introduced myself a couple of days ago). As I explained in my introduction, I am taking the StyleLife Challenge but I'm stuk at day 4 where I am supposed to really talk to girls for the first time. I faild the daily mission (asking suggestions for a cool clothing shop) three times by now and this, besides dejecting me a lot, made me questioning the whole track I was taking.

I concede that PUA can work...with some guys, but when it comes to me...it's just that walking up to a person and opening, negging, DHVing him/her sounds to me like an intrusion, I can't see me interesting a chick with my routines...

Rationally I can see this is nonsense, that I cannot say 'It doesn't work' before at least seriously making an effort, before even trying one single opening in my life, but still...

Is there anybody there who has had as much trouble getting started as me..?

Thanks!

You'll get past it. Just keep trying, no matter how much you fail.

Think about this as any other thing you've learned... you failed A LOT at the beginning, then you started getting better... I use my salsa lessons as inspiration.. the first month I sucked bad time... now I'm better, not perfect but definitively better...

The other thing you have to think about is (and this is not just about the game), you're a person, your "gaming" abilities do not change that fact and NO BODY is better than you... you can't approach people like if they were better than you... No body is better than you IN EVERYTHING, some are better at some things, some at better in others, but overall we're all just humans... so repeat that to yourself. If it helps you're doing everything you can to overcome your weak points and that's something that not everyone has the courage to do....