Right... So i started chatting/flirting with some girl on fb who is a friends friend about 4 weeks ago, for 2 weeks solid we flirted, and i bought up sex alot, alot of convers were like, suck my dick? coffee? etc... in a flirty way she loved it!!!

2 weeks ago, went out and met up with her, we kissed straight away etc... then she was really drunk and after i pissed her off, she got with some other guy (sounds fucked up but it was totally out of character for her, like seriously,, dont mention that again) so i didnt talk to her for a few days...

Then we got back on it, she came to see me sat night, we made out etc,,, then came to monday i went round hers, we watched a film etc... but didnt just made out, later ended up in her bed and i fingered her she was tossing me off etc... i was making her horny but she just wouldn't put out.

while i was round there she was like... i can have you when i want, your my bitch really, and she teased me quite a bit...

this week, i must admit iv been nice to her, and her texts are now so brief, sounds as tho shes not interested at all now... i don't get the game shes playing here,

anyway today i got pissed off with her i told her, and i said your being a dick, go fuck yourself!!!

I really like this girl, but this week shes been a retard and a twat, i should have ignored her when this started, but after our first conversations i expected to get laid straight away.

any ideas?

You wanted sex from her.



You need her to want sex from you. Or at least change your mindset from wanting it FROM her, and rather giving it TO her.



I'm having a little trouble explaining this, but hopefully you understand. If you don't 'get' me, please feel free to ask me to elaborate, and I'll gladly try and help.

If not, perhaps someone can elaborate on what it is I'm saying.

You want to be wanting to 'give it' to eachother.


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Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
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SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

I think she did want it off me, and has done for ages, shes been saying etc...
when i went round i was expecting to have sex straight away tbh, didnt bother with foreplay tried going straight in you know... probs fucked it up, stayed over the night aswell.... man.... sucks

but i don't know what to do about her now, just not talk to her for a couple of days? iv totally fucked it all up by becoming a pathetic blubbering mess of desperation

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Yup Finess has it.

You missed a big opportunity when she said " i can have you when i want, your my bitch really, and she teased me quite a bit", you need to flip that around. You need sex too much, girls can smell that 1 mile off and will play with you. Now if you give the vibe that you can get sex elsewhere and heck that you do, that you are very sexual but very selective... That is attracive to girls and that will not bring that " you are my bitch" attitude.

Now with this girl I fear it may be too late. But keep the tips in mind with other girls. If you want to flip the table on this one you need to somewhat cut ties and move to different girls. By overeacting like you did will only re-inforce her belief:
She knows she hit the nerve. I would be suprised if she "allowed" you to have sex with her in the near futur. Unless you like the bitch role you have to refuse. Say you want to get to know her more first. Say what you want but you need to turn her beyond her wildest dream and stop it there. Might be conter intuitive right now, but that's the only way I see now to flip the tables.

Right now you are acting as if getting in her pants in the nirvana, the greates gift she can give to you, as your ultimate purpose in life. She knows this and you are holding a very weak hand.

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How do i continue from here J?

I text her earlier saying Go fuck urself! she never text back...??

I'm thinking ignore her for a couple of days then text her saying...

coffee?

The reason why i say this is because we have a lot of personal jokes about sex etc... and iv said it a few times, if i text her saying wanna meet up etc... shel probs be like nah... i think i need to get back on the flirty level,

was thinking of saying,,, give me a chance to show you a good time, take her out somewhere good, show her what shes missing, and not kiss her until the end of the day?

or going round there and fucking her, and be like, ye i do that all the time attitude?

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Move on, learn from your mistakes. The damage is done. She's not that special.

In fact tell her, she's not that special and you are moving on and are already seeing another girl. She'll most likely be more polite now that she knows "She can't have you anytime."

Yup TheJ has it, too.

Agree with pretty much everything he said there, sounds like the stuff I couldn't initially be bothered to say.



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Personally, I really wouldn't recommend texting her that. I know exactly what is in your mind right now, and how you're feeling (I think I MAY have developed psychic abilities before you ask). But yeah, to me, you seem way too attached to the outcome of fucking her, and unless she's really cool about everything, you're not gonna get a favourable response to coffee.

I've been in a similar position before, I fucked up myself with a chick (I had already been fucking her), but basically ended up being a waste. I removed contact from her for ages, and I stopped contacting her altogether. Then in a month or so, she got back in contact and wanted to meet, we met twice, and I was being my normal self. Then she wanted sex with me. I wont say what I did after that point, because comes down to everyones morals...

But yeah, ditch her for a while, a good while, and you MUSt let her be the one to reinitiate (don't be too eager to jump at the chance though), then when you meet, you can't show interest in her at all. But just be your normal confident cool fun self (if that's YOU), and let her be the one to get all close. You have to let her escalate. Then it's up to you what you decide to do from there.

If you manage this though, you'll likely be beyond the point of actually caring to get with her. She will likely mean very little to you, and it can end up becoming a case of just trying to get one over on her. I did it. So I wont tell you not to.

But you're not going to get to fuck her until you HONESTLY don't really desire this any more.

If you want to fuck her cos you're into her, not happening. If you don't really wanna fuck her, but gonna do so anyway, it will work.

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Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Yup let that one go. Work on yourself. All of those traits that Finess named (detached from the outcome, being your confident cool self, etc...) you will come by having worked on yourself, ironed out your insecurities and needyness by feeling good about your self.

It may sound like mumbo jumbo to you or it may not.

In the mean time, approach others and learn from that one. Don't show needyness as much. She tested you on your frame and you yielded. She has the driving wheel now. Most girls don't like having the dricing wheel. She has you in her back poket and has figured you out.

Move on. Chances are she might come back, but if she doesn't, no biggie.

Just to clarify, I'm not saying that you need to be a duchebad that doesn't have a care in the world to get girls. FAR from it. Don't go overboard. There is nothing wrong with feeling affection for a girl. It is 'wrong' if it takes you over. See the difference?

Good luck!

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Drink me, make me feel real
Wet your beak in the stream
Game we're playing is life
Love is a two way dream