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There's a pretty basic formula for turning a girl into a friend with benefits, and you may have missed the boat on this one.
First, kissing and making out are meaningless. Girls at parties will do it for validation and attention without there being strong feelings attached. Just because she kissed you doesn't mean that she's obliged to sleep with you.
Second, if you want a girl to be friends with benefits, don't tell her you just want to be friends. Even if a girl simply want sex from a guy with no strings attached, she wants to be treated like more especially on the first few times. The formula for turning a girl into a FWB is to treat her like you would a GF at first (note this can be done in hours if you are into speed seduction). Have sex, stick around once it's done, even talk, get her number. BUT! Don't sleep with her more than once a week. Every two weeks will work or better once a month. If you sleep with a girl once a week she will start to think you are her boyfriend even if you blatantly tell her you are just friends. Frequency of sex defines a relationship for most girls.
You can't order a FWB like you would a Big Mac, - "Hi, I'd like a Fuck Buddy and an order of fries..." The secret of getting a girl in bed still requires she be attracted to you and be comfortable with you. After that, it's dependent on how much sex you want. If you want a lot from the same girl, better make her your GF - otherwise stick to sex once a month with 4 different girls.
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