Hey Guys

Last week I number closed an extremely attractive black girl. The approach was very indirect and I wasn't really thinking of number closing her. I just wanted to get used to talking to a really hot girl and not being intimidated by it. She was by far hotter than most of the girls I have done day game on so far.

During the course of the conversation, she gave me several IOI's and I decided to try and set up a D2. So she gave me her phone number.

We spoke for the next few days through text and phone. Everything seemed to go really well and she continued to give me IOI's.

(In hindsight what happened below was probably a shit-test and her own routine to root the shit-test).

But then the other day she told me about a friend of hers who was being treated poorly by a guy who was basically treating her like a booty call. I told her that sucked, and the guy should have explained to the friend what the deal was before anything happened. Then the girl had the option to say no before they had sex.

She then seemed to leap on what I wanted in my relationships. I told her I wanted to meet new people and see what happened. I wanted to make new friends, live my life to the full and see if I found "the one" out there during that time.

She then said she could only do monogamous relationships. I told her the benefits of having an open relationship and the experiences you could share with another human being and the immense freedom. She seemed to be quite happy at the idea at the end of that conversation.

She then texted me a few hours later saying she couldn't do it. I didn't want to act desperate by endlessly forcing the issue, so I told her that was fine and we could be friends.

I tried to frame it as a win-win because she and her friends would give me great pre-selection on nights out. Also the fact that I had # closed an HB which I would have thought was out of my league of possibility a few months ago felt huge to me as well.

She still seems interested as she texts me quite a bit and calls me.

Any tips on how I should handle this now or where I should have done things differently?

Appreciate it.

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"Too much patience will get you nowhere" - Doctor Who (Tom Baker)

Whenever someone says, "my friend..." assume they are talking about themselves. That was totally a test and it sounds like you passed. You over passed. You painted yourself into a corner with your answer and totally went to girl town. I don't know what your mindset is, but I like to sample the wares before I commit, I like to make sure I'm physically compatible before I lock it in. You basically said a guy should tell the girl whether she is going to be a booty call or future wife ahead of time so she can decide whether she puts out. Not surprisingly, she said she's only going to be a future wife and won't put out for less.

Fix this by saying you want to take things slow and make sure you're compatible before you commit. This is totally reasonable and only a psycho will argue with this. Tell her it's okay with you if she dates other people during this time, you don't want her to miss any opportunities. She is being kind immature by trying to make you monogamous when you haven't even dated yet, but you were the one who put it on the table. You are also screwing up by being closed minded. You can ONLY have an open relationship? Grow up. You might date this girl for a while and decide you don't even want to play the field anymore, cross that bridge when you come to it, it's way too early for this kind of discussion! You're supposed to be having fun with eachother right now, not planning futures!

I'm pretty upfront with storys like "my friend get threatened by this guy yada yada"

me: I might do the same to you if you don't threat me like the princess that i am, lack of emotional connection does crazy shit sometimes.

Lol!

Well I summarised the whole story.

I did tell her that I like to hang out with people a few times to see if I like them emotionally and physically. If down the line of those hang-outs she would ask me how I felt, I would respond honestly about I felt about her and if there was a future.

So at no point did I say right from the get go I would do only one thing.

I told her I only expected to have open relationships, but I could be proved wrong if I met someone amazing.

I will use your tips when I speak to her later today. Thanks Minsok.

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"Too much patience will get you nowhere" - Doctor Who (Tom Baker)

Yeah, leave it open on the open relationships, girls love a challenge anyway.

Thanks Man.

I'm still learning all this PUA stuff, so I appreciate the input into my mistakes.

I will tell her everything you mentioned earlier. The fact is I do want to hang out with her and see what happens as she is very stunning and a good laugh. I'd be kicking myself if I didn't hang out with her a few times to see if anything could happen romantically.

We'll see what she says and I'll keep your tips in mind for future.

Thanks for the kick up my ass and opening my eyes a bit more.

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"Too much patience will get you nowhere" - Doctor Who (Tom Baker)