No such thing as not possible, it might be hard. but that's why your a fuckin man... because life is hard and you take it and rip it apart.

Can't let life stop you, your just getting started

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Anxiety can kiss my ass and temptation can lick my ball sack

Sure it's not impossible, it just takes 33 years to get one woman to try with me enough times that I actually become comfortable enough to do it.

Ok... I'm in a really pessimistic mood right now, but lost the girl I liked, a good friend of mine moved out of state AND losing my FWB right when I'd need her the most to comfort me about the other two things. Not feeling optimistic.

Maybe I just need a break from people in general for a while...

WORST THING YU COULD DO!

believe it or not, I was in the exact same position a month ago!!
the only reason you feel like people dont care about u, is because your not SHARING your self with people... you'll be surprised with what people have to offer, girls are very welcoming and ARE EXTREMELY LONELY!

therefore there are soo many girls out there that would give their lifesavings to spend a day in your arms if you convay your personality right.

Idc bro, im 18 but you can add me on msn and i'll talk to u , cheer u up - even tell u my wild adventures fresh as they come haha, dont mind.

DONT ISOLATE YURSELF THOUGH!

- Sean Gallo ( Cazzo )

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Anxiety can kiss my ass and temptation can lick my ball sack

to me i agree with your determinations with 1 and 2, with you over stepping your boundaries and shit. and if this girl really made it a point to say she's not in for an LTR you gotta keep that in mind. im in a similar situation right now, and i sometimes have to cut off certain lines of thinking about her like "why isnt she getting back to me" or something else. you may have been vocalizing things like that to her that makes her feel like you believe you guys are exclusive. that would explain the "ask too many questions' scenario.

So i have some suggestions for forward movement:
go out and game. no need for f close them if thats an issue. get as many day2 as possible, and then determine the level of relationship you want to have. basically get a group of girls that you can call to chill, one on one and to go out. having other girls around you, while being all cool can definitely spark up that attraction again.

you should also determine if you want this girl as a FB verses a LTR yourself. reassess the situation, you know?
if its FB, chill. dont be asking about her business. if she throws things under shroud of mystery, leave it that, like it means nothing to you. definitely dont approach the subject of the BF with out some plan, like straw man theory, or any other boy friend crusher.
if its LTR: make a decision. either tell her. or drag this on until you cant take it and do something rash. there is also a slight possibility if the correct things, that it could become an LTR

Oh I didn't ask about it. She started talking about it, using general neutral pronouns and I replied back using "he." Then she asked who did I think it was, and I just said the BG because that's the only person you wouldn't want me to know about. Then dropped it and we talked about other things.
No, not LTR. I just want to maintain my access to sex and get more practice...

oh well than it seems you're not doing too much bad. i would just relax everything, and put a little distance between you to show that you have things to do other than think about her all the time. ive been doing that lately and it has been working like a charm. like things that usually phase you wont matter in the least when there is the space. in pua terms, a mini freeze out. nothing long or super serious, just a drop of connection for awhile that will hopfully end with her coming back to you, wanting it, lots of it

The freeze out... just to clarify, since I pretty much always screw this up, I'm not contacting her at all? Until she contacts me, or just giving it a few days?

Sounds like one-itis to me.

And that is definitely a PUA's worst enemy.

Tisk Tisk.

[SideWinder]

Every time I post... not everything is oneitis guys.

This s more like,"I had been thinking I could get more comfortable with sex by having it with her more and then I'd feel better about my capabilities with other women."

My oneitis is still the girl from December...

I'm starting to wonder more about the ex-boyfriend factor. When she went on that cruise she was still trying to avoid being around him at all. She even removed him from Facebook because it hurt her to see him. Then one night they were at a group event together, and she felt afterward like she was ok with it.

Now they are apparently hanging out together a lot. Going to NYC even, which honestly when we first started our thing she had talked about going with me... then a week or so after her cruise she tells me she's going with someone but doesn't want to tell me who. Even at dinner she tried to avoid using gender specific pronouns, like I couldn't guess if it was a guy or not based on that.

She also asked me one night (while in bed) if it was ok to not tell someone something if they didn't ask. But she prefaced that with "don't overanalyze this but I wanted to ask something." Which pretty much tells me it's about me.

The other thing... there was a "disagreement" between her ex and another friend, and she was telling me how she got mad at the friend and defended her ex. She kept mentioning that she would do the same for me...

They're getting back together, aren't they?