so this is the situation. im involved with this HB9, and we have been on and off for a while now, and in the middle of it all i found the community. so ive been trying to implement some the ideas, especially framing with her, but my previous frame is completely different. the problem is that she isn't adapting to the more assertive, strong frame that i'm displaying. see, this girl thinks she is hot enough to whatever she wants and im now letting her know that that's not true. any ideas how i get her to be more accepting of my new frame?

how high is the sky?

give more information....

1. what are your old traits
2. what are the new traits that she isnt responding to
3. how do you know that she isnt responding to them

my bad.
1. i used to respond weakly to most shit tests. she would do stuff to aggravate me for fun, and i would tall for it. i was a little needy on the physical side. mostly i gave in to all of her shit tests and was pretty AFC instead of standing up for what i wanted.

2. i dont take her shit any more. she still shit tests me, and i parry them as slyly as possible, but she'll keep coming with them until i just freeze her out. i've also started proving to her that i no longer need her and the i have other options. her reacting to that could be interpreted as attraction though, because she isn't stepping outside of us.

3. i know she isn't responding well because she just starts getting pissed at me when i dont sit through her shit tests any more and put up with her bull all the time.

to be brutally honest, its kind of an unhealthy relationship, but we both have strong attraction towards both of each other, which has been communicated. we're not really a couple either, and i've taken the time to game a bunch of other girls, but she really is my challenge that im committed to conquer, if you know what i mean? and i've cut my losses before, but this one i want to come out victorious

she sounds childish. what is an example of her shit tests to you..