So here's the deal, im a final year uni student in uk (21 years old), and at the moment im always in the library, like 12hours a day, the opportunities are endless, but ive not actually done any sarging.

main problems, confidence, and lack of knowledge and things to talk about. The knowledge aspect is what im building on, ive started reading the game and almost finished but not started other material, due to exams etc etc. i actually have an exam tomorrow, so wish me luck.

The Issue:

Ive been seeing this girl round uni (HB 8 ) every day, i smile, she smiles n thats it. 3 days ago i got introduced to her by a friend, that night she came over to to say bye to me and the next day we spoke for an hour-ish random stuff, she was very nosey, asking bout my gf type etc etc. Now today, i went to speak to her, but there were just loads and loads of silences, partly due to my lack of confidence n knowledge i think.

So ive not got her number, I think im getting IOIs or she could she just be very very friendly?

Help required in the best way to obtain number, conversational topics, and she told me any guy who can make her laugh wins! so that what im aiming for, i think ive bypassed the opening stages but what now???

PLEASE ADVICE!

EVEN IF U JUST PASTE ME LINKS I WOULD BE VERY VERY APPRECIATIVE.

THANK YOU FOR HELPING THE FUTURE GENERATION OF PUA's!

Ok. Well from reading your post it does seem like she's intrested in you. Especially when you mentioned that she asked what type of girls you go for. In my uneducated opinion that's an IOI.

If she is saying that any guy that can make her laugh is a winner (and you just want to FC this) then I suggest you put your confidence shoes on, you go C&F and try maybe some Kino?

I don't know. I'm pretty new here and that's the best I can give. Goodluck with it.

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Just start talking about you guys hanging out or something or studying together, then just ask for her number. Simple as that.

thanks for the replies guys, much appreciated.

the number i should sort out within the next few days.

then should i just be straight up and ask her out or build up to it, how quickly would she put me in the friends zone, based on my lack of confidence, and at present social skills. i mean theyre not totally shit, but they are limited, which i am working on.

The number one piece of advice I can give is to just relax. If a girl asks what kind of girls you like, if you're single, whats your type, all of those are ioi's. She certainly wouldn't be asking that of someone she wanted to be friends with. The thing that women look for is whether or not you NEED them. we always want what we cannot have. So act like it is a privilage that she gets to speak to you, not stuck up, but like you have ten other women waiting for you at home. You don't have to brag to her or say anything about your current relationship status, the more you avoid the topic the more interested she will be. MYSTERIOUS...
men are always looking for what to say, its what you dont talk about thats important. The worst that will happen is she'll reject you, get used to it, to be successful you must fail.

Women will always chase men they feel dont want them, they want to know why they aren't good enough. So dont just focus on her, talk to her friends, ask them what they do, where they go. Invite her to an art show on saturday, if she blows you off, just tell her she looked like she needed to get out more.

Dont think too much shes not the only one out there so go for it...

any chance

She likes you, so no need to be something your not.

Next step is speaking to her more, ask her if she wants to go out sometime to a different SPAM!

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You have to think about this from her perspective.
be honest with her, tell her how you feel about her, ask her out take her around a bit do some venue changes and talk about future dates so she knows your not just using her for the night
say like hey do u like italian or long island ice teas i know a great place ima take u out ye for sure

and her saying yes to going out with you in the first place should give you all the confidence you need to keep it cool.

good luck man. let me know how it goes sounds interesting

Cheers for all your help guys, really appreciate it, so here's what happened:

Ive been seeing her around library everyday, just general hows it going, i didnt ask for number or ask to meet out of uni, i dont no why but couldnt do it, im not afraid of rejection i dont think, and i have the words, the lines in my head but when i see her it doesnt come out, i really cant see why, i think its fear but fear of what??

so today she asked if i waned to come to eat, with her friends of course, and i was deciding whether i would or not so i said give me ur number ill let u no, she sounded hesitant to give but she did. I text her in 10mins saying ive gt work to do she replied 'cool', literally thats it.

So i have been thinking that IOI's may have restrictions, as in at uni/college everyone is super friendly, especially if theyve seen u around and everyone wants to make friends, so it is possible that the IOIs i mentioned above r just over friendliness?? for example, no expects to get hit on in the library, as much as clubs or bars, so IOIs here are very indicative, whereas in the library maybe not as much?

Any suggestions/ideas?

You SHOULD have gone to eat something with her. If she does like you and she mustered up the courage to ask you that then you've thrown that back in her face. Maybe it's time for YOU to be more assertive and ask her to get something to eat with her friends to make up for it..

Just my two pence.

So i got this girls number a couple of days ago, text her a C & F line, response was: it was jokes, tc. or along those lines. SOO confused...

I personally think i should move on..

and this is where my theory on women being 'twisted' comes in. as ive also read in posts here, ive noticed that some women are so forward, giving many IOI's etc but then give the cold shoulder. I believe this is due to women just wanting the attention, and once they get it thats enough, they dont need the sex like the guy is going for, they just want attention from many different guys as possible, just like guys wanna get laid from as many different girls as possible.

I personally think this is very selfish of girls

LOL

p.s any tips on gaming through texting? and how to know when she is not interested?