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The top ten lists by people like Thundercat are pretty much entirely dependent on business affiliations. All the stuff they say about rating these PUAs by "skill level" and stuff like that is all just marketing BS.
At least that's what I've heard through the grapevine

And I'm pretty damn tangled up in the PUA community's grapevine...
Indeed. Everyone I've ever talked to who is on one of those top ten lists has told me that they don't consider themselves a "pua", "m-pooh-ah", or a "guru". They tell me that most of the other guys on the lists bend the truth a lot and that most of the stories you hear are bits and pieces of several stories all weaved together in order create something much more impressive (sounds kinda like running game on a chick...but they wouldn't do that to us....nah). The rivalries and good guy/bad guy stuff is just more drama to get attention and make people notice them so that they can sell their product. They're salesmen trying to make a living and that's totally cool, but most of it is just superficial (or at least used to be) and not real self confidence and improvement. It's Hollywood, just like most of society...
Don't get the wrong impression though, I have no problem with the community at all, I just think that if you want to rank the best coaches in the world, you're better at going on personal recommendations from people you trust with you money and your emotional/personal well-being. If someone got great results from someone, then you probably will too, but if they tell you it was a waste of money, then being one of the five best coaches in the industry doesn't mean a lot aside from some silly bragging rights to having wasted a lot of money on something that ends up turning away probably close to 50% of people who are members of the community at some point in their lives. I can change a wikipedia page to say that unicorns are real and they fart rainbows, why do you assume the reviews on a site are real (I know I edit out the boring parts when I post reviews of my workshops, so why wouldn't they?).
2 people who I HIGHLY recommend:
Sean Messenger
Johnny Soporno