As the title says people, I'd be interested to know why and how you got into pickup.

I've been on the board a while now, and know quite a few of the people on here, aswell as new people joining up everyday because they think they're in a crisis.

I'm 21, and joined not so long ago (around 6 months I think), I wanted to get into it not just for the sake of picking up women, but also to change my life style a bit, in terms of how I approach things.

The reason I wanted to do it is because the girl I was with at 18 years old till just before my 21st split with me, and I did love her, and thought the world was going to end lol, which of course didn't and life goes on, you never know what's around the corner.

My uncle gave me a copy of "The Game", I started getting into it and thought you know what, " Chel, you can do this".

I'm still basically a beginner, but I have learnt so much aswell, and the people on here are great, it's something that has already changed me a bit, also will keep me well in future stead.

Chel

I hear ye man. A friend of mine told me to read the game after I completely crashed and burned after a double date (while he go to fuck his one LOL). I never had fear of approaching as an AFC, as my succes rate was around 0,007 percent or so...

being in the game for a year has completely changed my reality, although I still have a long way to go.

Like you, I had a relationship that lasted from my 19th till 25th. It was total AFC... in retrospect, but a lot of my DHV routine and stance comes from this relationship, I learned to live with it and use my AFC display of loyalty as a DHV comfortbuilder in my PU...

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Nice post man! So you feeling good now your in the "game"?

It's amazing, how it just woke me up, kind of a wake up call.

Hmm... I was in a fairly long relationship for a couple of year, and once I broke it off I concentrated a ton on school rather than my social life. I go to an incredibly demanding college (Berklee), and found no time to deal with women or even friends for that matter.

Once the new semester started, I was hanging out with a friend of mine when he mentioned pick-up. He's not necessarily a pua, but more of a person who's incredibly intrigued by people. He had practiced some pick-up for fun and showed me MM and the Game. I didn't really believe that it'd work, so he showed me. After seeing it in action, I started to do it myself.

Fast forward about two months now, and I'm pretty much a completely different person. I'm much more confident, aware and in control of every aspect of my life. Approaching women is fun because I just think of it as a social test that garners positive results 100% of the time. That's not saying that I always close, but I see every experience as a valuable lesson.

In the end, pick-up has been quite a handful but it's really molded everything for the better. It's an incredibly unique journey.

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My story beggins about half a year ago when i broke up with my girlfriend after being in a relationship for more then 4 years.

I was almost 16 when we got together, so there in 4 years there was a complete lack of flirting.

So imagine a guy, 20 years old, unable to flirt, unable to get a girlfriend.
I stumbeld upon "the game" and i became addicted. I wanted more and more. I read as many books about dating, flirting, bodylanguage as i could but i never put it in praxis, untill recently.

Going on rollercoaster? Sucks. I never had a bigger rush then doing the newbie mission or the first set i opend.

And yes, it changed my life

I'm still new, but I guess I had enough with not having success with girls. Looked around on the internet for stuff about being successful with women and stumbled upon The Game by Neil Strauss. I read half of that and then got bored, and here I am.

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Im not new... As some of you know. But my story is pretty fun anyway.

I was the kind of funny kid, trying to joke because I hid my insecurities that way. I was nice. A goob boy. Polite, humble, careful and considerate. Putting others before myself.

No surprise, I sucked when it came to women. I got frustrated. I got frustrated at always being the best friend without any kind of attraction. Ok I had some girls before but not very impressive.


I used to spend my days studying or playing Dungeons and dragons. Whenever I was in any kind of situation involving wishing, I always wished for unlimited magical power so that I could smite the ones disrespecting me. Revenge.

One day I woke up and realized that hey, Im just frustrated. I am a great guy and the thing I suck at is women.

It so happened that I passed a place where you can make wishes. I changed my wish and wished for the power to attract women. The next day I found "the Game" in the bookstore.

Ezo

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

That was like watching Precious. Truly an inspiration for the nerdy users on here.

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I'll hide my face for shame and admit I was introduced to Pickup by Mystery's VH1 show.

That got me looking up stuff and eventually I read "The Game" of course. Classic story right? Haha.

I'd had a few girlfriends, and had slept with 3 or 4 at the time, but I was, for the most part, the guy who was always the best friend and never the boy friend (like most of us nice guys here). After reading this stuff I looked back at all the hundreds of rejections in highschool and suddenly had this "oh my god... no wonder they turned me down!"

Combine all that with the fact that I'm a comm major who's nerdy about sociology... and it was fascinating.

That nerdy part of me wants in the worst way to start doing some research into combining comm theory with pickup. Stuff like expectancy violation theory, coordinated management of meaning, and the narrative paradigm has some incredible cross-over potential, but I'm not there yet.

23, good looking guy but on the shortside. I've never kissed a girl, and failed to do so in my 4 years at college. I'd like to fix that! A friend gave me 'The Game', but I didn't quite understand it, and scoffed at the idea thinking it'd never work. I met a gorgeous Spanish chick in Italy over the summer (I made another post about this) who liked me big time, but I was too chicken shit to kiss her. When I got back to the states, I realized I *am* desirable to beautiful women, and have nothing to fear. Unfortunately, it's easy to say that when I'm at home in a comfortable environment. On campus I usually can't think of anything to say beyond the usual pleasantries.

So, I googled pua Forum, and here I am. I'm stuck on campus with plenty of time to spare from 9am to 6pm Wednesday (I commute), so I'm thinking about doing the noob mission then. Any tips/advice, especially how it'd relate in a college setting, would be helpful I only have 4 more weeks to live my college life, but whatever...better to start now than never right?

There is a whole post about college/campus pick up in the top of the General Questions section.

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I like Charlatan was brought in from the Pickup Artist show on VH1.
My friends and I used to watch it all the time. When I was watching it I had a girlfriend whom I loved and did actually want to marry. She left me out of the blue for some fuck.Completely annihilated my confidence. I was looking for anyway out, I was sick of fucking sluts that anyone and their brother could have. I wanted something with value. So I set out with a goal. I found the Mystery Method, and while reading that I found my own bits of game in there and have since made my own routines and everything. My personality is the same, my confidence is 10 fold, my value is 100 fold. I'm still an AFC, but a recovering one. Since discovering the game, I've managed to get girls numbers I had only fantasized about before. It's much more fun to go to a new place where you don't know anyone and gaming. I moved an hour away from where I used to be and I've gotten a number in the 3 months almost I've been here, but that one number has helped me believe that I can do anything and the game of Pick Up has changed my life.

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Haha Get it? Klay Mask

Oh ya, I've already exhausted that resource. Thanks!!! Tons of helpful tips and great info in there.

Great topic...Heres my little story...

During high school I was a popular kid but was just too shy to make a move with girls. Through grades 8-11 I had a few HBs like me, but like I said I was too shy to do anything about it. Because of this, all the girls in my grade percieved me as a just a nice guy and I was stuck in the friend zone with all the good looking girls.

Then in grade 12 I met a friend who was a natural with girls and I tried to do what he did to get girls. Unfortunately, his style just wasn't my thing and I ended up acting like a real cocky asshole which led me to do even worse with girls. So high school finished, and I had learned nothing about girls nor had I gained any experience (3 K-closes).

A few months after I gradded HS I was living away from home and one of the guys I was living with had a copy of The Game just lying on his coffee table. I asked him what it was, and he said "it was the best book hes ever read and it teaches you how to pickup girls". I didnt think much of it at the time. Then one night I was following a different roomate to a party, because I didnt have directions but the dick that he was ditched me at a red light. I felt defeated so I just turned around and drove home. I was bored out of my mind that saturday night when I noticed the book still sitting there on the coffee table. So I said to myself "fuck it". I picked it and just started reading. 2 days later I was done the book and my life changed forever.

Ever since I read The Game Ive been on a mission to change my life. Its been almost 2 1/2 years now since that lonely saturday night, and just reflecting back its hard to believe how far Ive come. Not just with picking up girls, but with bettering my life in general. I see this said all the time on this forum, but I honestly don't know where I would be without the pick up arts. Its changed my life.

I fell in love with a stripper. I honestly think that girl and I had a connection, but I had no game, no confidence and no possible way to turn that little seed into something more. Eventually she realized I'd do anything for her, and then she was gone... she quit working entirely.

I was seriously depressed and whining to some friends on a web forum for an old MUD. Various suggestions for having a better dating life were thrown around, most of which have helped... but one guy suggested reading The Game.

That didn't help... at first. In fact, the stories of both how women behaved and the simple tricks that worked to get them depressed the hell out of me even more. I wanted people to be better than that. It compounded the sorrow I was feeling to think that anyone with a few canned openers could have probably gotten that stripper where I had failed.

Eventually though, I started getting out more (based on other suggestions) and trying the bar scene a bit more and this stuff made more sense in some ways. I eventually found this forum and started asking questions, though most of the time I just get told I have oneitis it has been helpful. I still think mystery method is not for me, but I'm trying to just learn some of the principles and apply them in ways I am actually comfortable with.

Not really having great success so far, but I guess I'm still working at it.