| You already passed the stage where you convert her to a FB in my opinion. I don't know of any 'standard rules' or procedures or strategies here but I'll lay down my general method which works brilliantly for me (no LMR and great long-term relationships):
1. Getting a fuckbuddy is a bit like any other sort of close - it's not how you close, but everything you do up until that point that will determine your success.
2. Build lots of deep-level comfort. You could have sex with her now, but don't - spend another 20 minutes, or organise a day 2 and tell her to wait.
3. Add core value to her life. This is a key criteria for a good pickup for me (providing I don't just want to hump and dump). You can do this just by having core value yourself - everyone wants to know an interesting, fun or famous person for example. However I often stack this by getting involved in her life in other ways, such as going swimming together or learning a language with her.
4. Manage expectations. When I can verbalise this before having sex, I do, but usually I don't (personally I think this is a slight flaw in my game but it works). The way I manage expectations before sex is that I mention my experiences with other girls at the moment and in the past. It's pretty clear what type of relationship I am after, then - you don't have to spell it out to girls, they are quite emotionally sensitive.
5. The best sex ever. If there's one way to make sure a girl keeps coming back for more - it's to perform well in bed. 99% of guys are shit in bed. So are you. My advice is to read some sex books that are written by women, and read some stuff on phone sex which you can use in person.
6. Manage expectations again. Usually I find that girls are pretty clear on what's going on and are happy to continue as fuck buddies. As a personal rule I always verbalise it though to avoid any bad feelings (which never happen anyway if you've done the things before correctly).
7. Stop gaming, and start loving. Lots of qualifying, wish her good luck in her driving test, exams or job interview...wish her sweet dreams every now and then...tell her she's beautiful...just make her feel good! Everyone wants to be with someone they feel good with.
And there you go! Simples!
Most of these things happen before sex. But see what you can take away from this and add it to her life. The reasons why she kind of ignored you guys earlier were in my opinion almost definitely a combination of the following:
1. You don't add value to her life - you aren't great at sex and she can get this from any guy, and you don't add much value else where; what makes you different?
2. Anti-slut defence and buyer's remorse. Because you didn't build enough comfort with her, and more importantly, didn't manage expectations well, she feels like she's been a slut or something.
All the best! x
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