I always hear this but where is the fine line between gaming a girl and walking away? If you approach a girl its obvious you are interested in her so in a sense she already has a 1 up position on you on where you want to be with her.


Just an example is a girl flaked on me last week. She came up with some BS reason IMHO about why she flaked on me. Trying to show a willingness to walk away I pretty much just said ok and ignored for a couple weeks.

She never called or texted back so I gave in and texted her and finally met up with her a week later. So if I had walked away I probably would have lost the girl.

So were does this fine line exist and can somsone give me a personal example of how it worked for you?

Why is does your sexual/romantic desire for her mean she is 1 up?

This isn't a case of one person winning over the other; it's two people working for a common experience.

I'm still new here... But I think at some point willingness to walk away really is willingness to walk away. For the sake of "inner game" there needs to be a certain point at which you say "my goal was to give her the opportunity to be interested in me. If she's not by this point, I'm not going to invest any more effort."

I've seen a lot of posts here from guys saying things along the lines of "what do I do? She flaked out and now isn't returning my calls! How do I salvage it?" And I have to ask if it's worth trying to salvage at that point. There more women, go find one that will appreciate you.

I don't think the "walk away" game can really work as well as possible without being based on a real willingness to just let her go if it's not worth it.

It works for me.

First the explanation. Willingness to walk away is a mindset. Not something you do as a routine. It is a realization and a belief... It is that you truly understand, agree with and FEEL these words.
"Hey girl, if you wanna be with me thats awesome, if you dont wanna be with me, thats fine too because there is another lovely young woman just around the corner."

Example:

I game a girl, build attraction and shit... I get the number, kissclose or F-close or whatever. Then I lose interest. It is more fun to find a new one than to pursue the previous one. So, if she is interested enough, I will go for it. If whe isnt I wont push her. I have done this many times. I charm, disappear, reappear after some weeks and act like nothing happened. I actually think of her but not that much, I have other things on my mind. So I meet up with her and start building from where we left off. I disappear for some days again. Show up and start building. And so on. This shows that I dont actually need her. But I like her.

And this has lead to a great relationship that is not bound by any rules or anything. If Im in town I call her, we meet up and have fun. No strings attached.

Oh, in the end we are gonna end up married but for now Im just playing. Im saving her for last. At least that is what I told her...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

That is a good explanation. I guess I need to work on having more girls available as an option and other activities. If I have those then I can truely apply this principle.

The best way to get the outcome you want is to not care about the outcome at all.

I can't remember where I read that but it seemed relevant to this post.

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