wow, a lot of responses here.

I have only glanced over them, so forgive me if I'm not adding anything new...

Reading your mention of going from program to program book to book etc, I'm incredibly sure that people have already shared their thoughts on that. So I sharnt repeat the same 'just go out and approach' advice to you.



However, my advice will be similar to that, but in no respect the same. The biggest change to my 'game' or my development, came when I decided to figure myself out.


Perhaps you need to go out and figure yourself out... before you stop reading and start thinking 'blah blah be yourself yeahhh heard it so many times before' I'm not speaking specifically of that.

Firstly, you need to go out, and just learn to be comfortable BEING YOU in every situation, I'm not talking about 'practising game' or 'approaching' I'm talking about just going out, and learning to act with an UNINHIBITTED BOLDNES... so whether you're around friends, friends of friends, hot girls, professionals, doctors, grannies, police, whoever.... learn to become comfortable in fully expressing yourself. Once you learn how it is you are naturally, and how to be comfortable like this around anyone, 'game' becomes easy. It all becomes easy.


once you've became yourself now is the case of learning what about your natural self works in the whole 'game' thing, I'm sure there wil be traits/things you do naturally, which would work from a game perspective, work out what these things are, then work out how and why they work.

Then it's simply a case of filling in the gaps.

You don't need to learn any silly tricks or techniques, just learn how things work. Learn how qualification works, learn how ESCALATION works.



Honestly, the two most important things to learn how they work....

first and foremost... work out how YOU work.

Secondly... get good with ESCALATION.



I could tell you to learn what I've found to be most important in terms of style. But that may not be YOU.

You'll easily find what your 'style' (i.e direct/indirect etc etc) once you find out how to be your true uninhibitted self.




Hope this helps in some way.



Much Love
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~Finesse

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Dude, that was some great fucking advice that I will take into consideration. Im 18 right now and I know I have a lot of time. But I feel as if the past 2 years of high school were the years I couldve grown the most and had the most fun since some people consider high school the best time of their lives. Unfortunateley, for me that hasnt been the case. Ever since going into junior year I became this kid with no confidence, had major depression, and had no sense of self-esteem at all. Right now, after discovering pick-up im in the process of rebuilding myself.

Im not gonna go into the details of why after going into junior year I had become this kid. But to make it short I lost all of my friends for reasons unknown and had no social life for the next 6 months. Its funny how some things like that like going from being the most popular known guy to going to a guy with no friends do to you. I went through an identity crisis and im slowly moving back out of my shell.

Right now, my biggest problem is being myself around grown ups. Social conditioning has fucked me up. Even though I am now an adult technically I still have that need to please every adult I come into contact with and seek their approval. Like mom and dad taugth me. But maybe this is a stage we all went through. This is the hardest part for me though. Being myself around grown men.

But, I will definiteley take your advice into consideration and will try to be myself more around everyone and anyone. Btw, great fucking advice.

Wow, I can relate strongly to your situation, very strongly indeed.

From popularness, to depression, to the need to rebuild yourself. I'm guessing my advice couldn't have been more relevant.


I looked at several different methods at the start of finding this, I then this year had to forget them, and learn myself.


Thanks for the love.

I'm sure this'll go to help you a long way. Will be interesting to know how you get on, lemme know when you've started to notice some major improvements, I'll keep an eye out for your posts.



Love
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~Finesse

_________________
Munroe: "I kinoed the hell out of that goat"
Jav: "bashing chodes 24/7 ftw"
Slywalker: "Neg the bagel"
Slywalker: "I had a 1yr old GF when I was 19"
SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Thanks Jav.