I've been hanging out with this girl for a while. She was over my place, and left the room for a while and was on FB. She left a chat open, and two different guys were on there both asking her to come over and "have fun". It was at night when she was talking to them and she had said it was too late and said "maybe tomorrow". so she gets back and im stunned but I acted like I didnt notice anything and I was dead quiet the rest of the night...I just didnt wanna talk to her. When she was leaving, she leaned in for the kiss and I literally grabbed her shoulders, moved her back, and walked away and didnt say a word.

Im not the most experienced guy but is this normal for a 19 year old girl whos popular to have this kind of constant attention? I really wanna know if she's actually meeting these guys or not. Were not in an actual relationship but I was looking forward to starting one...now I dont even think I wanna touch her.

Has this happened with anyone? Im feeling alone as hell right now and confused. She still talks to me occasionally but it makes me feel ill that shes apparently "on call" to other guys. Im just grossed out and wanted to type this out. Anyone with any experience or input, i'd like to hear it.

Why are you even bothering with her? Let alone wondering if its normal for a 19 year old girl to do such things. Its clear she is not a girl you want to be with, so delete her number and cut off all communications with her.

there's nothing wrong with anything she's doing.

its entirely possible those are just guys hopefully asking though it never happens.

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If you had the opportunity to have a couple fuckbuddies would you take it?

If yes, then you're a hypocrite for thinking she shouldn't. Unless you're in a committed relationship there's no reason for her not to have someone to take care of her sexual needs.

If no, what the hell are you doing here?

I've got to agree with Onama here.

Not sure what your beef is?

"Attractive 19 year old girl has blokes interested in her shocker!"

She's showing she has a sexual side/appetite.

Are you into other girls?
Do you talk to other girls? I'm imagining yes

So why don't you like her talking to other blokes?

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Im actually not just saying this but I would love a great relationship more than a few fuckbuddies, thats just how I am. I like sex but my sex drive is more mellow, I'd rather have it with a steady partner...which is what has me a little unprepared for this. Im just gonna have to break all ties, the whole game's about having standards and I wont take any part in sloppy seconds...or however high the fucking number is now...

every girl you meet is gonna have slept with lots of guys. if they haven't, then likely you aren't gonna be attracted to them.

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Honestly, I'd love a great relationship more than a couple fuckbuddies too. However, I still have a friend with benefits. We've got a good relationship as friends, but just don't have that romantic connection required for a relationship. The funny thing is the whole thing started because we needed comfort from "real" relationships that had just ended.

Really, what's important here is whether or not this girl is sleeping with a couple guys she's friends with and using protection... or if she's available for any guy who asks. I'd stay away from the latter... honestly.

But look, as you get older you're GOING to be taking "sloppy seconds." The last time I met a female virgin was when I was in high school, and she was 18. Even if a girl doesn't have fuckbuddies she'll have had boyfriends, one night stands, ill-advised hookups and... well... plenty of experience.

Why not just comment about what you saw with her. Then if she says yeah she fucking them, then you can say ok i don't think tis going to work out then since you seek a relationship

HUH???

man, the fact that she has a sexual life doesn't make her "sloppy second", did you really thought you were the first guy to talk to her? you think she sits at home waiting waiting for you to call?

off course it's normal for a 19 years old attractive girl to have a sex life... she is single

don't blab about how "you have standards"
you're being really mean to her, you just want her for sex, you don;t really want a relationship, if you liked her for who she is as a person you wouldn't care that she used to sleep with other guys/in a sexual relationship before she met you

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Im not comfortable with it either man

If you see this girl as special, and as relationship material and you respect her so you wont make any moves too soon and then you find out she has got some other dudes on the side to fuck her with 1 phone call away. well I think that sucks.

I think all girls are sluts nowadays, thats good and its bad because. well, its easy to fuck them even though they pretend to be hard to get. while they all have 20ish guys who went over them already.

Did you guys know it takes 6 weeks for celiber from one person to get out of the mouth of another. So if a girl you kiss, kissed another guy within 6 weeks earlier then you have that guys celiber in his mouth. Well do the math..

anyway you have to live with it, or let go

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

What the hell is celiber, and where did you get your information?

And of all bodily fluids, I'm pretty sure anything in the mouth is the absolute first to go. For those of us who brush our teeth, anyway...

I cant believe no-one commented on the only sensible comment above! I'm with you Crayc. If there was a possibility of you accidentally seeing her messages WITHOUT snooping, then id confront her immediately. Youre not going to look jealous, any human human being would be curious about msg's like that IF YOU WANTED SOMETHING SERIOUS WITH HER. Why waste your time with a girl that doesnt fit your criteria?

Oh and I fully agree that i too wouldnt worry if i saw msg's from guys saying 'come over and have "some fun"', its the fact that she replied with 'maybe tomorrow'.

As others have said though, if you only want her as a fuck buddy (and youre ok with her having other fuck buddies too) well then those msg's shouldnt bother you in the first place, but thats not the case so I think you've got your answer!

(shit ive have just realized how old this post is... well ill post it anyway for what its worth!)

what do you mean that you've been "hanging out with her for a while"?

Wow, I forgot about this thread. I'll be honest, looking back on this and reading I feel a little ashamed at myself. Im alot better since then and coming to terms with the world and how these things work. Im still out there doing PU's and learning everything I can but some things these forums cant teach and you gotta learn for yourself and I did. Thank you all for the constructive criticism.