was on date with this one girl and we planning on going to dinner and dancing.went to dinner and she wanted to come back to my place to change(she lives 45minutes out of town).

she gets changed/dressed when we come back in high heels and all and she walks toward the door and says i guess i see you later and im like standing there thinking i paid for your dinner and you changed in my apartment for an hour and youre ditching me?. she pulled the old" i didnt know you wanted to come". well duh who else would be going with you?? then shes say "you can come if you want, i didnt know you wanted to come i swear".

i just said see you later and let her walk out herself.

looked at her facebook and low and behold another guy invited her to the bar for later. i work with this chick so how do i handle this. just not talk to her, act normal?? im total non afc but this really irked me

Despicable. The solution to this is painfully easy, fuck her. Anyone that'll pull shit like that isnt worth a moment of your time. And I noticed you said you paid for everything? See? You learned more than ONE lesson tonight. It sucks what happened to you and I feel for you but take it with a grain of salt...and refrain on paying like that again for a first date. Chances are, you'll come across more girls like this in your life and will just use the fact that you'll pick up the bill the first time.

i work with her everyday, just act normal like nothing happened or ignore her? need my alpha status for other potential girls there so im guessing act cool/normal even though id like to just say fuck you, or is that alright to say to keep my status? im thinking something like this its alright cause i got totally fucked over

I dont blame you man. I've been in a few situations where I really wanted to just flip my shit and say fuck you but in the end it doesn't benefit anyone. If you want to break ties with this girl, just be normal and be yourself like always, but a popular belief on this forum that I dont believe in is to not let the girl know that what she did hurt you. Let her know.

Im not saying grab her by the ears and scream in her face, BUT if you two start casually talking again. Bring it up. Dont be shy. someone did something that you disagree with. Let them know it did in a civilized manner. Living life this way is a very respectable way and women are no exception to that rule. You CAN get your point across and still keep your dignity, the less games you play with women like this the better your outcome.

Personally, just do what you can to ignore her. Reject HER, because she disrespected YOU. In situations like this, keep your cool man but dont be afraid at all to let her know. Work it into the conversation, but let her know how it made you feel.

Im babbling but - when she said "you can come if you want" is bad news, we can all agree she does NOT want you to come to the bar with her, and she was simply being nice to the "other guy". Up to you man, work your way with this girl and become that guy or phase her out as much as you can. The latter of the two will save you a LOT of time and heartache.

No, this would completely ruin your image. Only clingy, insecure, immature boys go around saying "fuck you" to girls who didn't get with them or do what they wanted. If you want to come across as the cool, collected, alpha type there's no way you can be that silly. Unless a more experienced PUA has more informed advice, I recommend treating her normally and as if it never happened. That way her feeling of control over you will diminish.

Also, don't be bitter that she went for the bigger better deal, whoever the guy was. Just see it as a learning experience, and prepare to make sure a girl doesn't do that to you again.

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