no he's right, its an ASD(anti-slut defense) they think that its the guys job to contact them and if the girl does it makes them look "thirsty" or really horny for a guy. maybe not to men, but to other women definitely. believe me ive tried to wait for a girl to call or txt, and got nothing but when i do they're really excited or happy for the most part

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que sara sare, LET THAT SHIT RIDE

blew it. feel like shit!

what happened mate

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'Nothing is impossible to a willing mind'

I would disagree on this. I don't text guys because they have to approach me. If they want me, they will know where to find me. If they like a girl, they will go after what they want, no matter what. Also, I wait for guys to text because of push/pull. You don't want to be needy all the time. It has to be equal for both parties to give and take.

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♥ BSB ♥

long story short, she asked me what i was doing on Wednesday night. she said she didn't have work on thursday so she's super excited and wants to hang out. i told her i'll text her when im off work.

once i got off work around 10 pm, i told her i'm off and she said "we're at so and so but i think they are charging cover."

i think when i read that, i over-interpretted it and saw that as her not wanting me to join her by saying there's cover. so in response, i said "that sucks! well im going to hang out with the guys. let me know if you need a ride later!". she replied "thanks" and was pretty cold with text messages the rest of the night. i didn't want to be needy and it sounded like she was doing a girls night out kind of thing anyways.

the final text messages that night was:

me: i just saw something that reminded me of you!
her: what?
me: i can only tell you in person!
me: it will make u smile

and she never responded.

i haven't talked to her since. ive been going out sarging and meeting other girls to get my mind off her but its not working. i was making out with a girl all thursday night and last night i turned down this girl who wanted to take me home... i still don't feel that much better.

i went on a super long bike ride yesterday and posted a picture of the summit. my buddy, who is really goofy, posed in his pic like he's taking his shirt off like super man and she commented on that pic saying "sexxxyyy" none of us responded to that.

that makes sense but do you think this applies to my particular situation? i feel like i'm texting her more than she's texting me at times.

That's sweet. (Yeah, I know this was a pointless reply but I "awwed" out loud.)
That's a sign she just isn't that into you at the moment. If she liked you, she would have made the effort to reply. I guarantee it.
It's the fact that it gives us power, but more importantly we've been brought up to believe the man always goes first, pursues, and then we reward him by responding. It's deeply conditioned into our psyche, really. After all, can you disagree that if a guy is really into a girl he's not going to text? For me it's almost a test for him.
Because you're into her. I'm going to offer some NLP advice and bring your attention to this rule of human nature:

We want what we can't have and want more of that which we have to work for.

You're not making her work for you at all. To her you have "low value" because you're showing she can have you by texting her pointlessly so much. (To me, a text asking me how I am half-way through the day is kind of pointless. You could have just asked her the next time you saw her in person.) Also, that last text you sent her was probably pretty WTF for her. If she liked you she still would have replied though.

Bottom line: she just isn't into you, I'm afraid. I'm sure you'll get over her soon enough if you stop focusing on her so much and sarge a lot. Who knows, maybe she'll suddenly find you attractive when you're perfectly happy without her attention.

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"If you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best." - Marilyn Monroe.

damn i was hoping to not hear that haha

you're right. i just want something that i can't have or have to work hard for. i knew from the beginning that i shouldn't have gotten attached to this particular girl.

guess i'll be going out sarging again tonight! going to try the Pet Finder iphone app... LOL you guys should give that a go

imo if there was something there you havent lost it yet, think of a flame, if there was an initial attraction a flame was lit, now the flame is dim, obviously

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'Nothing is impossible to a willing mind'

so last night, i texted her room mate, the one that i know best all these girls that live in that house. she's pretty hot but i only see her as a friend and she's always down to party/drink.

she told me she was super depressed about recently breaking up with her bf so to cheer her up, she decided to come along to this bar, and later to another lounge with awesome music and a dance floor.

what an awesome night. we saw someone get hit by a car (which was weird), did a bunch of goofy things on our walk to that dance lounge (crossfit exercises lol), and just had an awesome night. there was no one dancing when we got there but we were pretty drunk and not really shy. eventually the place was raging and i'm not afraid to say it was probably because of us

i'm pretty sure she's not going to stop talking about it for a while. last night definitely made it into my top 10 nights.

at one point, i remember looking around for my guy friends on the dance floor to see that every one of us had a girl just grinding soooo hard on us. definitely had to tuck the boner in the waist band. my buddy saw that and couldn't stop laughing. the girl he was dancing with was so confused hahaha

this is getting confusing and i don't feel comfortable saying their names online.

the one-itis girl is girl A, room mate that i'm pretty good friends with is B, and the last girl is C (this is the one i was trying to get with originally but she has a bf).

last night, i went over to fix HB B's computer at like 10 pm. HB A was home and was hanging out with us for a bit before she went to sleep. she was talking alot and seemed to like the fact that i was over.

An hour later, girl C couldnt' fall asleep so she comes out of her room and joins us in the living room, as i fixed B's computer and drank beers. the entire time, HB C is just grilling me on my life story and giving off a bunch of IOIs. she asked me what i was doing the next day cause she had nothing to do and wanted a hang out and have a "fun day". we used to send pretty intimate text messages before i slept with HB A but i've stopped since then out of respect.

B and C made it sound like A was into me. so this morning, i poked her on facebook, within 2 minutes, she pokes me back. she also commented on my status about an inside joke we have.

then this afternoon, i decided to FINALLY text A and see if she wanted to go fly fishing with me after she got off work

me: what are you doing after work??
(5 mins later)
her: dinner and a movie

i was prettyy bummed and wasnt sure what to say so i said nothing.

then i went to the gym, worked out, and felt better. 2 hours later, i texted her "wooo knock em dead!" and she replied "LOL you're a dork"

then later on facebook, i read that she was going on a date with her ex bf who she had to call the cops on to get him to leave her room....

WTF guys.. so many mixed signals. i think she felt lonely while i was freezing her out and went back to her ex bf. not sure how to handle this. u guys are obviously going to say "move on" but i'm pretty sure i'm calibrating this right and there is still something happening...

sorry for the long post. hope you read it all and can give me some constructive advice.