quick summary, used to talk to this girl over the phone for like a year, would talk alot for hours *she would initiate the "can i call you?" thing on messanger, she was the one calling me*, eventually i must have fell into friendzone, she used to ask when are we gonna hang out etc, eventually she proceed to talk about a guy she liked going to jail and she would wait for him or make references to "her man" .I never really cared or had much interest in her at first but then it started to build up. I planed out that i was gonna go hang out with her when she asked to hang out this one weekend then she didnt keep the plans, something came up. then i eventually let her know that if i couldnt hang out with her i had to drop contact *yeah i went AFC* and eventually lead to deleting contacts and eventually she banned me from contact on myspace because i would message her back like "hey lets be friends again". etc.

My mistake for loosing my cool and becoming a total AFC.

eventually fast forward a few months later, she unblocks me out of the blue and re-adds me. Im totally shocked. We eventually make slow small chit chat here and there. After a few weeks on messenger, she asks if she can call me. she calls me up last night and we talk for maybe an hour or 2. I asked her "im curious why you re-added me? i thought we wherent on good terms..". Her answer was pretty much "i gave it some thought and i wasnt being mature blah blah i was going through rough times".. i just jokingly said "oh I accept your apology hah it happens, its cool." I asked her when are we gonna get some coffee and she said shes been busy with school/work/being a mom. *college, nurse etc*

We are back on good terms but I just gotta distance myself from falling into friend zone.

There is obvious qualities that she sees in me that she talks to me, either I somehow make her feel good in someone to talk to, or just talking to me so she can feel validated. I just need to push this into a physical meeting so then i can build up in person and pull out of talk friend.

Im 26 still living with mom but back in school *working on myself* , she has her own house/comes from a wealthy fam. Feels kind of discouraging when she talks about money related things "so and so buys me flowers" etc.

I live an hour away but its still attainable , esp since im hoping to move closer to LA when i pick up a job after school.

Any advice? Dont really want to ruin this 2nd chance. Obviously she re-added me and started talking to me again for a reason. Even if its just for her to feel validation, i can still gain off that right? Ive read The Game, currently reading Double your Dating by David Deangelo and then going to read the mystery method.

No offense, but it looks as if you're in the friend zone completely right now.

She's not going to forget about everything in the past.

You can't always accomodate her for whatever she wants. If she asks to call you, just tell her you're busy. Don't plan everything in advance. Be spontaneous. Call her when she leasts expects it. Be SURE to make it clear that you don't want to be just friends. Don't actually tell her this; show her through your body language and attitude.

Once a girl realizes that you like her more than she likes you, you're in deep trouble (in most cases).

yeah im just wondering how can i push this into hanging out and building up from there.. i suppose i can start with cutting down on allowing her to call me "hey im busy right now ill hit you back later", which could build anticipation for her waiting for my call but instead freeze her out a lil bit.. I always make it seem like I am busy "im in my books right now studying for school" etc. Im trying to make it look like my social activity is still going strong even tho im back in school/out of work.

Should I just say straight up " hey i want to go clubbing this weekend, lets go ill take you out" ? Im trying to invite her to do something fun like dancing or something since she seems like no one really ever takes her out.

or i could go "hey do you have your daugther this weekend?" and depending on her answer "oh cool i want to go see a movie, wanna go?"

I cant text since im not the one paying my cell at the momment, so text game is out.

Perhaps I did not really persue her in the past, and at that time ended up in FZ, and maybe now with recontacting me after all that, thinking i will do something?

so i randomly called her tonight, chit chat we joke here and there... so we get on the subject I call her a nerd, we talk about our growing up, she says what type of guys shes interested in, she says she likes nerds and stuff now "i dont like gangsters and users i like nerds" *her past where gangster type, baby daddy is jobless* . She also classified me as a nerd saying how she can see me being into computers and am a racer since im into cars. But more then a few times she says "i like nerds, im a nerd too".

She says I need to get texting service *since im jobless, mom paying for my cell at the momment and i cant have that luxury*, thats a missed opportunity to game imo, but i implimented that I rather just call .

She says she gots a man, sounds like a guy who just smothers her *the other day she said "he always buys me flowers". I been trying the straw man technique http://charmingrogue.com/straw-man-tech ... -unveiled/ *where when they talk about their guy, you basically say good things about him "oh im sure hes a good guy, takes care of his princess" to build him up into mr.perfect and it typically makes them think of the negatives. and she sounds like she isnt happy, says shes not happy. Mentions that everyone tells her to break up with him. Talks about another guy who is her friend but she has a crush on him, says his body is like a MMA fighter and he looks good, where as her man isnt all that great looking. I just go along with it like "yeah im sure hes cool too".

This to me indicates shes not happy where shes at, so i think i can pick at this.

I told her im going to Anaheim tomarrow for a Autocad 2011 show with my class.

I really hope I am borderline friend zone *if i am in there*, she even admits this MMA guy is one of her bestfriends but she doesnt know how he feels about her because they are distant but she was practically drooling over him when she was telling me over the phone.

I tried to push for a movie meet up but she was like "oh sorry i cant" blah blah.. *i didnt ask if she was gonna have her daughter this weekend, so im hoping that is the reason/besides having a man she says * im hoping that wasnt too pushy, just a casual meet up amongst friends.

She did mention that when she used to talk to me last year, she was in a sad emotional state because of guys.. so i suspect maybe talking to me now cheers her up, or at least her image of me is affiliated with a "good" emotion.. I just need to push this into a face to face meet up, then from there I will work on kino and push -pull.

Im tempted to just straight up say "Hey, I want to see you"