If there is one thing I have learned over the past seven months in this community, it is this:

Game is really complicated!

But, only if you make it complicated, that is the thing. But how can you not make game complicated? When someone like me comes on to this site and joins this community, we are overwhelmed by what we find. Can anyone even count the number of methods there are of gaming out there? Every single person on this site has their own opinion and perspective of gaming - therefore I would say there are thousands and thousands of different methods of gaming on this site. Every single person voices their opinion, which I encourage, but this also leads to confusion. And confusion is one of my greatest obstacles in really mastering this whole success-with-women thing.

Think about this: if there were one simple way to learn 'game', as people call it, don't you think there wouldn't be any problem in becoming successful? If learning game were like learning a new language, it might take a few months before any one person began to completely understand it, and the learning curve would be essentially the same for everybody, and I would say 90% or more of the people that learned it would get results within a few months.

But game isn't like that. There are so many things to learn, and I can't emphasize that enough. I'm not going to make a list, but look through the different topics on the home page of this site, and you'll see what I mean. Each one of those topics has a subset of thousands of posts on those topics, each post bringing up new topics and questions and answers and opinions and methods. AAAH! SO CONFUSING!!!

Ok, great, so there is lots of good advice on this site and in the community and in all those pick up artist and self help books, but where do you start? I would argue that all of these individual materials have value to them, but in one huge heap of information it is just way too much for any one person to take in and actually understand. The hardest part about it is that some of the differing material contradicts other materials. What do you believe?

Now, how do you get over this very very very steep hill on the road of learning game? I know I'm stuck on that steep incline right now, as are many other people in the community (I've seen the posts - "Confused!").

I watched a movie a few weeks back called 'Up in the Air". It's with George Clooney, and it was nominated for a few Academy Awards. During that movie, George Clooney's character leads a self-help seminar entitled "Empty your Backpack" or something along those lines. And it was during this part of the movie that it occurred to me that I could actually use this information. Emptying my backpack was exactly what I needed to do.

'Emptying your backpack' is simply a metaphor referring to removing any unnecessary 'luggage' and weight that you carry with you in your life. Clooney's character talks about how much weight we carry with us these days - this weight includes relationships, finances, jobs, debt, commitments, this kind of thing - and that by simply removing them, we can all find our lives a little bit easier to live, and we won't feel so weighed down.

Now this may or may not tickle your fancy, and I am not suggesting you do exactly this. It may be a bit extreme for what you are looking for. But, what I propose is to apply this concept to the problem that so many of us face in the PUA community - the mass of information and the steep learning curve that comes with it.

To 'unpack' the PUA backpack that you carry and take out the unnecessary luggage will really speed you up in your learning and lighten the way up the learning curve and over that hill that you seem to be stuck on.

Now concentrate. We're going to empty your backpack, and put back in only what you need.

Take out everything you know about women and pick up. All the openers, day game, day two game, closes, principles, abstract information, methods, and advice. You'll most likely end up with a big pile of stuff, tons of unorganized paperwork and books and things piled up and in a mess. This is what you have been working with.

Now put back into that PUA backpack only what you need to carry with you, and leave the rest behind. What do you need to carry with you? Only the bare essentials, only the principles that govern why a woman is attracted to a man. Now this is the subjective part - everyone's list of necessities will differ. Go through, in your mind, a perfect interaction with a woman. Make it go perfectly. Then, throughout this interaction, pick out the deepest and most primal principles that make the interaction work. These are the principles you need to repack in your PUA backpack.

As a response to this post, you can post your list of necessities that you chose to carry with you in your PUA backpack, and let me know your thoughts on this.

Pack light, and have a safe trip.

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-Sharplin
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The thing is that we all have vast knowledge concerning game. We may think that we dont know anything but we do. Our inner game increase as our outer game does and in the end, we can forget everything we ever heard about PU and still be awesome.

We just need to know it first, otherwise we havent developed at all.

I use to think that Im being myself when I do pickup and trust my feelings. But it is just because myself has changes and experience has taught me a new kind of intuition. But I rarely think when Im gaming anymore.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

If you don't have your own successes to back up your own game, then it is easy to get confused. That is how I view it. I think in some sense we all start of unsuccessful, which is why we seek out game in the first place. Then once we become more successful we want to give back and become part of a group of like minded guys on this forum.

I look at it like other people's experiences are invaluable, but only if you have a strong sense of what works for you and what you are against. Some guys are players, some guys are assholes, some guys are this and that. But like EZO said its how the girl FEELS around them, which is a reflection of their state.

Many different things can work, maybe ANYTHING works if you come from the right frame and subcommunication.

Maybe we think its routines, methods, openers, or whatever but really its not even close. Maybe women are responding to something completely different and we just think its the opener or state or subcommunication. Maybe its just her state of mind at that a time.

Point is, until you have success, you read about game. Then you change until you get success, then you realize that there is no game, its just you and other people. If you have what you want you won't need to learn anything else. Game becomes ridiculous and you don't even know what it is. Your approach just works now, you have what you want out of your life so you longer are even concerned about "game."

That is when you have game.

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Ahead of my time, like I live my whole life backwards.