"Just grabbing her and kissing her" is the visible projection of your attraction for her. It's a demonstration of your comfort with her. It's a demonstration that you realize she's comfortable with you.

^None of these things are going on.

"Grab and kiss" doesn't just happen . . . it happens because the "grab and kiss" is simply a natural transition from whatever is going on. Think of it like this. You don't put your wet suit on, your weight belt, tank/regulator, and fins, snorkel, mask, and then go back home into the kitchen to cook a tuna melt. If you did all that stuff, you'd be scuba diving. You'd know it and everybody would know it.

When you set up a "grab and kiss", both parties ABSOLUTELY know it's going to happen. You'll figure this out when you get enough 2nd meets and, girls will go . . . "I just shaved my pussy". - Of course she did. She knew what was going down.

You don't scream "fuck you" over and over at a stranger and then ask if you can be his friend and if he can loan you 100 bucks. Likewise, you don't pour your heart and gain the trust of another only to steal his car later on.

You've been doing ^^ over and over again. So what is it that you want to do now? Ask yourself why you're even here. Sure, I don't doubt that you're a guy and so I'm sure you'd like to fuck but the reality is that you'd just like to fuck ANY girl. When you walk down the street and you see any random hottie, you turn your head and go, "Whoo whoo! I'd like to fuck her." With this particular one, you just want to avoid some humiliation and get some returns on time invested. What you're doing isn't right and she knows it.

By the way, this is why you acted like a total "gentleman" on those dates:

You thought that it would gain you sex. Whereas before, you were preemptively hateful to her because you were afraid of being hated, now, you're a total square because you think this will entice her to spread her legs for you. She might understand this at a conscious level or she might not. Either way, it's certainly not turning her on.

Can she STILL be gamed? Of course! She could have been "gamed" from day one. Can YOU do it? I doubt it. If you could have done it, you would have done it already. Spend some time on yourself. Pick up meditation. Breathe from your lower stomach. Avoid sugar. Eat root veggies. If you want some more help, pm me. This is no longer a PU issue.