A year ago I broke up with a girl because I wasn't ready for a relationship. She took it really bad. We totally lost contact but recently I got back in contact with her.

We've been hanging out sleeping together for a few months now.

Now she wants a relationship but she doesn't trust me, because I might walk away like I did last time. So she's asked for some time away from me to think about things. She told me it'll take her time to trust me again and she needs me to prove that I can be a friend to her before anything else can happen.

She still wants to keep in text contact with me, but I'm no longer initiating contact. It's been a week now, I'm freezing her out.

Is this the right situation for a freezeout? Or do I need to be her friend and build up her trust again?

this is not the right time for a freezout, you need to reassure and be close to her to get rid of the trust issues.... and prove she can trust you.

By freezing her out you are:

Acting like you have no feelings and emotions for her

Making it seem like your not bothered when you have no contact with her

these traits will make her think even more that you could up and leave anytime you want and wouldnt feel a thing.

Thanks for this. I have to see things from her perspective. She's getting close to me and wants a relationship but simply can't trust me.

I need to prove that I'm gonna stick around. By freezing out I'm basically ignoring her instead of gaining her trust.

I just wanted to make her miss me a little.

Well she has said LJBF's. I find it pointless to hang around a girl and not fuck her.

I can build up my trust with her by being a friend but I figure that it will just make it impossible to move from friends to a relationship. She will end up not dating me because she see's me as a friend and then we'll both get jealous and mad at each other when we start see other people.

I don't think there is any right way to go about this. I might have to try being a little HOT and then COLD if I meet up with her. Kinda like move 1 step forward and then 2 steps back!

Other than that, she loses an awesome guy that fucking adores her.