I dont really understand the alpha role.. Youre supposed to be the "leader". But how do you act, how do you talk, walk,act and everything? Are you supposed to be nice to everyone or what? I want people to like me and want to hang with me. But im kinda confused on how to do. help please

From the way I see it (and take my point of view with a grain of salt) Alpha has some variations, but the general idea is to ooze confidence.

With calm, assertive confidence comes a sense of dominance over the lesser mortal.

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Yeah but are you like supposed to be quiet all the time? How do you like take control of everything if youre supposed to be calm and quiet? And isnt it boring to be a quiet person?

Calm doesn't necessarily mean quiet.

Somebody posted the other day with a really great success story about how he experimented with social proofing (ie: he wasn't trying to get laid he was trying to meet and have fun with everybody at the party) I tried to find it to link it but with no success.

In any case, he basically approached a set, made a quick and playful impact, then moved on to the next. By the end of the evening everybody recognized him as the life of the party, so he was a babe magnet. He was calm, he was assertive, he was alpha.

Being the magnet comes in time, with social proof, and with absurd amounts of self-confidence. I hope to pull it off some day, lol. ^_^

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All you need to know

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V74AxCqOTvg

lol hows that suppose to learn me to act alpha in daily situations?

im sure everyone has their own idea of what an "alpha-male" is but IMO i think its being comfortable with yourself, your true self in public or anywhere. ive learned that women love and have a 6th sense for genuine confidence, everyone is a little self-concious about how people percieve them, but if you would stop giving a fuck somebody will notice

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^spot on.

Alpha is about having balls, not caring what people think of you, doing what makes you happy and having belief in yourself and your own actions. You don't have to be quiet, but when you speak, it should be worth listening too.

"i don't give a fuck"

tell that to yourself everytime something happens.

mission accomplished.



girl "I'm pregnant and you're the father"
you "I don't give a fuck, make me a sammich"

girl "i have a boyfriend"
you "i dont give a fuck, you're commin back to my place"

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Will that really work? Just be aloof at all times?... errm ...I mean , I don't give a fuck, fuck this forum.

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i do it. it works.

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can you help me answer my other question

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two things ...

First .. never trust a beautiful woman !

Second .. being alpha to men is not the same as being alpha to women ! You have to experiment to figure out the difference. I think alpha is the wrong term anyway .. it has been overused and now has connotations that work is all directions to various people ... I would use the word "masculine" instead because although the leader of the pack is often attractive to women ... the pickup artist cannot be tied down to managing a social group, he must be free ... and managing a group is a sure fire pathway to having a girlfriend (just one) and then you drift into being "a mans man" who other guys look up to .. but can no longer get out of that persona .. it's a trap the lots of guys fall into.

and third .. dont be seduced by the "dont give a fuck" routine. It has its merits in the fact that if you are solid .. like a ship that doesn't get pushed off course by wind and waves. Then you become a mighty ship in the womans eyes and can be relied upon to make it all the way to the destination. What she is actually say is not to stop caring about anything .. which is self deminishing ... she is actually saying KEEP YOUR passions and desires and dont give in to pressure from her.

What she really means is "dont let the woman knock you off course ... break your frame .. or get you to supplicate your desires and passions" because she doesn't want you if you do .. and the only way she has to find that out is to test your cranial thickness and intestinal fortitude with dramatic demands or some downright scary shit.

Hard men are good to find ... be a rock !!


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It's not about being aloof. Not an, "I don't give a fuck about ANYTHING." It is, however, an attitude that, "I will do what I want to do, act how I want to act, dress how I want to dress, be who I want to be, and I don't give a fuck WHAT YOU THINK."

When you are doing something, you should not be concerned that others will approve of it. You should, however, be absolutely certain that whatever you're doing is exactly what your supposed to be doing according to your desires, end of story. You live for yourself, and no one else.

If you embody this mindset--comfort with your own activity--you will exude the attitude.

For me, I learned how to tell people to fuck off when I learned how to unicycle. When I lived at college I would ride my unicycle all over campus and I had to learn very quickly how to let snide comments roll off me. Basically, a mindset developed: "That's right, I ride a unicycle. You think it's weird? Well fuck you, I really don't care because I'm having fun." Now apply that elsewhere: "That's right, I wear a fuzzy top hat. You think it's weird? Well fuck you, I really don't care because I like how I look." "That's right, I just said we're all going to Wal-Mart and we're going to the toy section and we're going to have an epic sword fight with the foam sabers until they throw us out. You think it's weird? Well fuck you, I really don't care because I want to have fun, and if you want to have fun too, get over yourself and join us."

Before I go into a situation I might potentially be uncomfortable in, I remind myself: "Fuck it. No apologies, no regrets."

btw, best first date ever

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