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Clearly you're delusional to think my views and opinion of women are similar to a militant dikes. Really? Oh and I'm not some bitter child going home alone at night.
The point I tried to convey, in a tongue and cheek manner, was that once a woman hurts you, when you make yourself vulnerable to the wrong girl and it back fires and your left with a pain, It's an experience you carry with you the rest of your life which effects your outlook on women. I had my heart torn out by a woman about 5 months ago, and after experiencing that you take on what can be compared to a "bitch shield" - though you are actively pursuing woman, want a good women in your life, and wish affection from women, you place a guard around your emotions effectively hardening your heart, making it a hard nut to crack so that only a woman you can trust with your vulnerability and emotions can get to it. Part of that guard is an a generalized outlook that the majority of woman can readily use and abuse you, and take you for an emotional ride if you let you're guard down. "Women are evil"
This outlook is essential to a PUA for an LTR. B/c you must a remain a challenge to a woman, you have to be an onion shedding one layer of a time and revealing yourself to her as she earns your approval - or you determine her worthy of knowing you more intimately. As you continue down your path of searching for a good woman - or a pleasurable experience - you must remember that any girl could be the sweetie you want and treat them with as accordingly, while at the same time remembering your hurtful experience and keeping you guard up.
very good points here
As much as it hurts you, you are precisely that.
Life rolled you (as it will roll all of us) you got hurt (as it will hurt all of us) and now you are scared.
You don't want to get hurt and that's understandable, no one ever wants to be hurt. And you are right in thinking that in a way part of being a good PUA is being a challenge and letting people have fun by toying with them when flirting.
But this shield is motivated by hurt and pain. It's not so much you aren't putting all your eggs in one basket, as it is you don't want to put your eggs in the basket. But part of the natural development of any relationship -platonic/sexual/romantic- is letting your gaurd down.
Trusting someone and opening up, but it's nothing to do with holding a wall in fear.
People get attatched and develop feelings for people like any normal human being, becuase they get to know someone, if your making this whole attatchment process hugely un-natural cognitive selection.
Then there is something wrong with you.
Learn to let go, allow yourself to open up when it feels natural, not becuase she has "earned" your trust or gained your high celestial approval.
Women aren't evil, women don't hurt you, it's not something intrinsic to them, it's a qaulity inherint in life.
Suck it up son of mine; the storm is blowin up all your horisons.
Cause change has come.
Keep your dignitiy.
Take it like a man.
CHAT