I am here to offer you the magic pill to seduction mastery. No matter how many people tell you otherwise, there is one thing that will garuntee you results quickly. Your game will literally transform the more you experience the pill. The truth will slowly be shown to you and everything else you read will mesh into your game enhancing your power as a man.

What is the magic pill?

It's called the....

Mistake

Mistakes themselves are the magic pill to seduction. There is no quicker way then to go balls out and screw up. You will transform yourself overnight.

Go out to that club or bar alone and approach complete strangers and lead the conversations.

Go ask the girl out that you have a crush on, try to hook up with her.

Let yourself be who you really are with everyone.

If you take the mistake pill daily, you will no longer be afraid to live. We all must let go of our need to maintain our self-image by never making a mistake and never recieving negative social feedback.

BREAK FREE from this fantasy, that other people have any real power over judging you. There is not a person in this world who is the judge of anyone else. Fear of mistakes is fear of having to admit that you aren't perfect.

That magic pill you are looking for is a lot closer then you think. It just comes with serious ramifications for your ego and is a direct threat. Are you ready to admit that you are not perfect and you could work on your skills with women?

Then take this pill, the mistake, and continue to take it. You will slowly attain godly status as you apply what you know instead of just reading.

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Although I'm a new member on here, I do have a little bit of experience, just natural game though. And I DEFINITELY find this post to be 100% true. Once you just get over caring if some girl ditches you or blows you off, what else is there to lose? You approach 1 or 2 girls and get none? I approach fifty and get ten, I think I win.

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Yes and the more mistakes you make the less you fear making mistakes. The more you realize that it is all in your head anyways. The more you realize that women reflect your internal beliefs. The fear is what YOU are creating and the rejection is what you are expecting.

There is no PHRASE that is going to make you succesful with women but there is one ACTION that will.

Just go out and do it. Make the decision. Don't let your mind talk you out of it because the mind is your worst enemy when it comes to women. It is a great asset for many things, but with women the mind only clutters your natural masculine self.

Going out and making mistakes will improve your game exponentially. More then any new book or routine.

1) You will no longer fear being rejected because you will realize that it isn't as bad as you think. It feels better than sitting at home eating cheetos and feeling like a loser.

2) You will directly experience your attachment to social feedback.

3) You will become more and more social, more and more confident and can gauge your responses from women as your progress (just don't seek validation)

4) You will learn from experience and gain the most valuable lessons of all, your own.


Just let go of your self-image, ego and expectations of this world. Just let everything go and don't be afriad to fail. When your internal self-worth is constant and derived from yourself, you can be rejected 100 times and not think that it was your fault, but simply circumstance or damaged girl.

Go out there and let yourself make mistakes if you have to. The bottom line is once you let go of the fear, you realize that you aren't making mistakes anyways, you are just improving. That is the true power. You bypass mistakes because you are just focused on becoming better and better. Soon you will reach the point of no return and that is when you become COMMITTED to total mastery.

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This is fantastic advice. I think it will help me a lot in my pursuits. Understanding that the goal should be to make mistakes and improve yourself, rather than simply picking up women. If you look at it from that perspective, you succeed by failing because you become better as a result.

Rejection is a Good Thing.

Though, I will point out that letting go of the fear... not of just rejection, but of success, is something very difficult to let go of. The only way to overcome this fear is to find another fear that is stronger, and essentially replace it.

Do you fear approaching groups of people because they don't like you?
Or do you fear not being able to be social and make friends with new people?

Do you fear talking to that girl that just walked by?
Or do you fear being alone for the rest of your life?

Think of what it will feel like tonight when you are home sleeping in your bed alone. How many girls did you pass up talking to that could be with you now? It doesn't matter whether they really would have or not, but you don't know because you never tried.

I am struggling with this as well. Doesn't matter how much I understand the foolishness of my fear. Doesn't matter how much I rationalize the alternatives. It is still with me.

It is somewhat comforting to know that I am simply not alone, but less so that I know this is something I need to crush myself, and no one else can do it for me.

i agree you cant get success with the fear of failure! enjoy the ride!

Respect, this post is very true..

The challenge is, to kill this thing in us, and to overcome, our thinking, when with women..

once you, can just be yourself, and dont care what others think, your free, and most of the times LEGENDARY with the ladies

Any tips, for overcoming the fear-step, to just letting go completly, of what others think, and just be your own awesome self..

Cause I notice, the times you do do it, for perhaps when you had a lil to much beer.. Afterwards, you can regret, but most of times, it was actualy, damn awesome, and people loved it .. !

good post. moved to lounge.

Thank you all for your insight. I think several great points were also raised by many of you.

The most amazing thing is that, women don't expect you to never make mistakes. They are attracted to you when you aren't afraid to make them. You don't think that a mistake is a big deal or is indicative of your true value. Men that are great with MANY women have a belief.

"Yes I make mistakes, and that makes me more attractive because I don't let the fear stop me from TRYING"

misdirection, your post stood out to me. BIG idea right here. Becoming who you are socially includes everything from your friends, girlfriends, one night stands, family and everything. It isn't just about having the ability to go to a club and sleep with a woman. That will not leave you fulfilled.
This is the sole biggest mystery to me. Human fear of success. Is it rooted in what we feel we deserve because of our past actions? Is it rooted in guilt? How can we want something so bad, have all of the tools, and then NOT let ourselves attain it?
We all struggle with this, it is a deep element inherent to men. It isn't how to get rid of the fear, it is how to cultivate it and turn it into ACTION.

Mr. Daniel, thanks for you post.
1) Meditate on why it is you are attached to social feedback. Realize that it IS NOT a personality flaw, but a social value that has been engrained in our minds by the constant judgment of our actions and personalities since the day we were born.

2) Realize that everyone in this world is on a equal playing field. You are no better, or no worse. Everyone has good to offer, and also bad to offer. You are the person who is making things up in your own mind about what others think. The majority of the time, you aren't even right. You are just insecure about something, so you project that onto others. In reality, which we can never truly know, they didn't even think twice about you, because they were focused on their own insecurities. Once you can realize this, you can control your own mind. You minus well create a reality where everyone loves you because either way, actions are the only thing that will ever matter from women to men.

3) Just go out, like we have all said. Go OUT and do what you want. Don't be afraid anymore. There is nothing to fear. If you get rejected, insulted and made fun of, you will wake up the next day a MUCH stronger man. You will LEARN and become the man who knows his own method instead of sitting on a couch compiling guides from other men. The ONLY different between gurus and us is that the guru's have spent YEARS in the field making this mistakes.

They cultivated their fear and ran it instead of letting their fear run them.

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Good breakdown using communication context.

If I'm not mistaken, our self-esteem is a bi-product of these thingies

How we think others think of ourselves
Our own self image
And how we interpret our own actions

Don't matter how much we try to define ourself and our own realities, it's only natural that we take what others think into consideration when defining our own reality. So we just have to have a selective memory and remember all the fucking cool things as oppose to all the nasty experiences. Let's all make getting laid a mistake and have a delusional self belief of our own self-image so others will see that as well.

But lemme tell you somefink man, sitting at home eating cheetos is just as bomb as going out.

Overall I agree with this post, and yeah my thoughts aren't very well connected, but if you read it twice it'll start to make sense.

Lets not even call it game because it just identifies that we need to actually do something to get women. Just be in your happy place in your head with zero expectations and pretty much all will sail smoothy.

Signing out.David

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I'm addicted to facing my fears.

Bomb. That sums up all the other over complicated jargon.

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First let me just say, great post Casthenova; I think you really hit this on the head!
You know its funny I owe a lot of my success to Starbucks. I started studying in starbucks instead of the library my last year at ucla and beyond. When you hang out in a coffee house for several hours everyday, you pickup on things, on the way people interact on clues that lone targets may or may not drop. Some people will engage you, men and women, and just being in close proximity to people helped me overcome all fear. I would try and engage at least one person in the shop every time I went, and sometimes more.

There was never a specific time when it really clicked for me, that I can remember. It was a gradual process that happened over a season, and one day I said to myself (or was able to say to myself), that I am getting pretty good at conversing with people, men and women. You learn to relate. You just do. I cant really explain it because it just sort of happened to me. Maybe you should just be in public places and you get comfortable. Other than making sure I talked to one stranger every day, there wasn't much of a conscious effort on my part. You learn to act quick, seize opportunity.

I'll never forget when I knew for sure I had come a long way. I was studying at the counter, by the line in my favorite Starbucks (its on the top of a freaking hill), and a 9 with one of the most overtly amazing racks I've seen engages ME about what I'm studying. Here I was staring at her rack and she turns and asks about my book. I handled it all very well, but botched the # close on an amateur mistake. That is when I learned that approaches/rapport are only the first hurdle. There is always room to grow and improve.

Regardless, Starbucks helped me come a long way, and I not only recommend that any of you hang out there for at least a week, but challenge you to converse with a stranger for at least 5 minutes each of those days. The more the better. If you go in with this attitude, you will get creative, you will adapt. I can't explain it, but you just will.

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