Hey there,

I’ve basically got a situation where I was flirting with a girl for several months, chose other girls over her a few times etc (preferred the other girls at the time but liked her all along). She recently admitted that she used to fancy me, and kept indicating that she fancies me now (we were playing a game where you had to describe the person you fancied, lol) but when i went direct and told her that it was her I liked, she said, "sorry but I used to fancy you, but you kept liking other girls so I just sort of gave up?". She said that she fancies somebody called Danny who fits none of the descriptions that she said she 'fancied'. Also, she said that she had liked me since we first met (about 6-ish months) and that she “reallyy liked me” and also said she has “liked this same boy for roughly 5-6-ish months”.

Help please?

P.S. She's quite shy, so please take that into account.

the problem here is that you 'broke' down and confessed your feelings, which the lackthereof is what attracted her in the first place.

this rarely works, unless you choose the perfect time to switch. which is near impossible.

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Every Saint has a Past, Every Sinner has a Future

Agree with the above, also since she's shy she might not like things in the open. I'd personally try illustrating subtly that you are over it and show interest in other girls again. You'll probably be back to square one and you can try escalating from there.

you talked to her logically, which doesn't really work with emotional beings on emotional ground

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

Telling a chick you're into her isn't as much a problem as waiting several months, and several other girls to tell her. You waited to long to pull the trigger and now she has moved on. Simple as that.

couldn't state it any better.

re-establish attraction and take her out, use her as a wing and it will drive her crazy.

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-dw3llz