Hey PUAs, hope all is well.

My main sticking point at the moment really only has to do with being in and out of state. I tend to lean more toward natural game than scripted lines and strict tactics, and in natural game if you are in state, your game is really 'natural' whereas if you are not you're game is more forced.

So, I am inconsistently in and out of state. Some days I have a really good day and I am in state the whole time, and the rest comes naturally. I talk to everyone, I make girls laugh, I have good conversations, and I feel good overall. But some days I am not in state, and the opposite is the case.

There is probably no one way to get in state 100% of the time, but I was just wondering about some of your methods for getting into state?

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You're not the first one to bring up the inconsistency in my game, which is my worst sticking point. That is the only time I've ever used a scripted line, I wanted to see how it worked.

But yes, I even confuse myself sometimes, as I really overcomplicate this whole pick up thing.

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Stop worrying about state and if your in it or not and how to get in it and such.
This worries me. The fact that you feel that your game is foced if your not in state shows me that you dont fully understand natural game. Its shows me your still at the process of "doing" insted of just "being."

Once you just start being insted of doing, state will no longer matter.

Natural Pick Up is about being, not doing. All you have to do is BE...be the naturally cool guy who is naturally sexual and charming. Other than actually approach, you dont have to DO anything except just BE.

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I usually have a couple of drinks when i go out at night to get in the mood. so what, it works good as for me

Hobbit, I don't completely understand what makes you think that I'm trying to deceive people into thinking that I'm better than I am. I hope I don't sound overly offended or malicious or anything, because I respect you and I have always appreciated the advice you've given me, this included.

That post about me approaching on the beach? That was 100% honesty. I know it was a fail. I posted it in order to get advice. I'm a virgin. I haven't once k-closed a girl using game. I've never had a girlfriend. None of this stuff is very easy to admit, but when I'm on this site talking to the community, I always tell myself that if I'm posting something that isn't honest to myself, it won't help me.

This is the reason I ask advice from the community. I know I'm struggling. I know I don't have good game. But, I also know that I am just as capable as you are, or as anyone else on this site, and that I can have better game if I am honest.

I give advice when I can, and ask for advice whenever I have trouble. Isn't that what I'm supposed to be doing?

And I titled it "My First REAL Approach" because it was my first approach in an open environment to a group of girls I had never seen or met before, as opposed to a closed high school environment where everyone knows each other.

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I'm sure it was you who kissed some friend's ex gf or something on New Years? I could be wrong but normally I have an exceptional memory.

Sharplin, you're just worrying too much man. How many people do you reckon lost their V from cold approaches? I am guessing not many.

You posted something the other day saying if you felt you weren't constantly making people laugh and instead just sat there you were losing value. Stop caring! You can't be having fun all the time, although you can try to.

I'm certain that once you lose your virginity you won't seem as desperate, you won't care as much what state you're in, how much value others are perceiving you to have etc, because like someone's sig says - it sucks balls man. Your first time sucks dick, I was uncomfortable as fuck on someone's floor whilst her bf was passed out on the couch next to me. She was an absolute horror and now has a kid, but everyone has to start somewhere right? I'm glad I did it because I no longer felt any desperate need to get laid straight away (although I managed to do another girl the next week, also minging, but experience still).

You won't truly understand this until you lose it. I lost mine later than most, at 18, so don't be ashamed.

You say you're in high school, what is that in Canada? Compulsory Education, College or University? Americans call University "College"; so dumb if you ask me. Anyways, wherever you are just focus on seeing a few girls. Obviously you need a number to do that or facebook, so get out there! I regret my wasted time in Sixth Form College so much.

get rejected by going for a k-close too early than you are used to.

cheek turn away doesn't count, back off doesn't count.

verbal NO

This is clubgame, I don't know if you're going there yet.


BUT, in my opinion, state is a nice bonus, you don't need it. See limiting belief.
You don't have to be in state to get success

I doubt that Hobbit worries about you decieving people about that. What he is pointing out is that YOU shoudn't decieve yourself.

Anyhow, you shoudn't worry about labels either. You want to have Natural game? Sure. 'Natural' game comes from being. It has nothing to do about state. If you try to convey high energy. Then you don't have high energy. I'm all for the 'fake it till you make it' moto, but until you make it, don't worry that you are faking it.... if you follow what I mean.

Is there a way to get 'in state where you can easily be a interesting person to girls and make them react positively to you? Sure. That takes years of practice until you realise that you are there. Until then, practice!

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Yo Sharpy! Read up on NLP. theres this technique u do to urself which involves anchoring a certain feeling or state to yourself that you can trigger/access at any time... well from what I made of it.

Lemme just check what the pdf files called..

ok its called: Introduction to NLP

its a small file and only a few pages long.
could be legit.

I dont do it, coz i dont need to.... just through constant practice ive been able to reach a natural state of being in GAME MODE...Then if i even feel like it I have a couple of drinks and become an absolute slayer!

which hopefully u will too.

let me know what u think if u read it!

TJM