So I've been talking to this girl for couple of months now, we went on couple of dates (she's from out of town so couldn't go on more dates) and all seemed to be going well. We speak on the phone every now and then and txt through out the day. She's been a bit less responsive lately but wasn't too concerned.. I went out of town lately, my phone broke and couldn't really contact her for couple of days, but that last message was her wishing me a safe flight and all seemed well...

Once I got back into town, I tried to contact her but she didn't respond. It's been couple of days and not sure why she hasn't responded yet. I don't want to txt/call her when she hasn't responded to my first attempt. She's been flakey before so I'm not sure if that's what she's doing again. Should I attempt to contact her once last time or should I wait to see if she bothers to check up on me?

This is what i would do (you dont have to).

Call her again after a few days. (dont txt, call her).

If she answers, just say "Hey i called you so-and-so long ago,
do you hate me? is that what it is hater?" or some other fluff and just hit it off.

If she doesnt answer the phone, try again after a few days.


They say third time's a charm.


REport back on what happens.

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The thing is, it's hard for me to give someone a min of my time if they don't bother to do the same. If I do decide to call her, I def wont act as if I was thinking of why she wasn't contact me. I'll just play it cool and act as if it's all good, I'll try to find out why the silence but in a more subtle way.

I'll wait couple more days then I'll attempt to contact her.. I'm not sure at this point, and I'm starting to lose interest. I'm more pissed than interested at this point, went above and beyond for someone and they don't bother to reply to a text.

I disagree with the whole "asking her why she hates you" thing. Sure, contact her in a few days. But do not under any circumstances bring up her flakiness. It's been several days/weeks. If you call her and talk about why she didn't reply to your text - how needy does that make you sound?

Don't bring it up.

When you contact her, act as normal. You haven't even noticed that she ignored your text. You've been too busy living your life to even care. So call her and be yourself. Continue gaming her the way you've done earlier.

That's what I mean.. I will not act as if I've been waiting for her to respond. I'm just gonna play it cool. Yes it would sound really needy and desperate. So again, if I do decide to contact her again, I will just be cool about it. And as I said earlier, If I wanted to really find out why I would be more subtle and not directly ask her. But i wont event bother. Besides, who said that she hates me? I'm not gonna make that assumption. This situation is confusing because the day before I get a text saying she misses me then the following day I get ignored. thanks for the advice.. Keep it coming

That's right - don't jump to conclusions that fast. What are the chances that she actually hates you, seriously... I like your mindset. Keep that up.

However, if she starts signaling clearly that she DOES hate you and she does it ALL the time - then it would be appropriate to ask her what the fuck her deal is. Until then, keep it casual.

Good luck

make sure to add the FUCK in there. I wouldn't also keep her waiting for a bit before I called her. do you think she might have some one else ?

Dude I know she doesn't hate me, she's just flakey by nature.. I've done nothing wrong.. Our last contact ended on a good note. I'm gonna hold off contacting her for a bit. She'll be in touch, her ego wont allow her not to find out why I'm not flooding her phone wondering where she is

You wouldn't?? don't you mean you would? I don't know if she has someone else or not. If so then oh well as I've got someone else too lool.

You wouldn't?? don't you mean you would? I don't know if she has someone else or not. If so then oh well as I've got someone else too lool.

UPDATE... I called her up after a week of no contact. She answered, we spoke for about 30 min or so, caught up on things, acted as if nothing had happened. She was telling me that she's been sick (excuses, she still has fingers and can txt), I wished her well, told her I had to run. I texted her the next day to check up on here, I've never seen her reply so fast lol. That was yesterday (Sunday), I'm debating if I should keep my distance still or easy in a bit?

im also in a similar situation with a girl. ive slept with her a few times tough. but was noticing that she was beginning to lose her intrest. the best way is to wait a few months to se if she regains her intrest again. if not then forget it and move on..

She's interested still, and even wants me to come visit her (she lives about 2 hrs away). Heck she told her freaking parents about me, but I think she's being the needy princess that wants guys to chase after her and give her all the attention she wants. I'm trying to crack her shell and kill that ego, I want her to put equal effort into this. It doesn't help that she's only 21 and still some what stuck in la la land and wants a fairy tail

thats what she wants you to think. so you can continue to chase her until she blows you off completley.. some girls are like that. best way is not to give them any attention and move on. the only reason she is doing that to you is that she is probaly dating other guys and making a comparison between you and them. i think you are dating a young adventurous type of girl. its gonna be emotionally very hard for you you to resist calling her or texting her. but trust me if you want true attraction back and not the fake one she is demonstrating then you have to forget her until she calls/texts you instead!

There's a lot that I know which you don't, we have a mutual friend which has been giving me the inside scope. But you're right, I'm not gonna give her any attention until she contacts me instead. I don't do the chase thing, I'm not easily attached emotionally, but damn this girl is a dime, and she has the personality to go with it, which is the only reason why I'm even vested in this. But at this point all I'm gonna do is ride the waive and see where it takes me, I've made my impression, built a solid frame and I know she likes me. She's just acting hard to get, shouldn't be to hard to crack her shell, all it takes is time and patience and very minimal to no contact. She'll be begging for attention in no time, and speaking of which she just texted me as I'm typing this, saying "good morning, hope you have a great day at work". And I'm not event gonna respond