| Dance clubs are my favorite, there are 3 outcomes after the approach...
1) Shes flat out says no...so what...keep it moving
2) She hesitates because shes with her friends, so you need to do some talking
3) Says yes, easy as pie
Heres my approach in a nutshell
1)Walk in at an angle to her left shoulder
2)Place your right hand around her back onto her right hip
3)Say some variation of "hey you want to dance"/ "hey are you girls dancing"/"Hey lets dance"...with a sleek smile and a slight raise of the eyebrow
Always follow the 3 second rule, dont linger around her because they have senses for creepers, when you see her go in and dont give yourself a chance to think about getting rejected.
This works for me because I literally come out of nowhere, signifying that I wasnt lingering around them, so I was confident enough to approach right when I saw them. Then by me placing my hand on her hip or on the small of her back, it shows that I am comfortable with body contact from the get go because grinding is 100% body contact, so you have to be comfortable, loose (not stiff), and vary your hand location when you dance, grab her hand(s), her leg, hip, go handless ect...After she knows you are confident in your approach, comfortable with touch, project your voice so she can hear you, then smile so you are non threatening, my eyebrow raise is just a personal touch.
At some point during the grinding, you are going to have to speak, or shes going to get bored and leave you, this I am still working on, getting better at is, but not going to offer advice I am not completely comfortable with. _________________ I'd rather go out swinging than strike out looking.
A lifestyle is a terrible thing to waste.
What I say when I see her is what I'll say.
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