I’ve heard many different things when it comes to this topic. Obviously this is not talking about one night stands or girls you just want to take to poundtown.

I’m talking about girls that are worth dating. At the beginning do you guys think it’s better to play it slow? I’ve herd in some books they say play it as slow as possible. As opposed to getting her into bed asap.

While playing it slow, you show her that you control the relationship, sex and most of all its, it is going all at your pace. It shows that you can control yourself and hold off on sex. Also, this does not have to mean sex, playing it slow can be holding off on kissing as well. How do you guys feel about this? If done right, you can connect on a strong emotional level, build up strong attraction and make it so she can’t wait for that first kiss.

However,

You run the risk of not connecting of a physical level (even if you are really good looking). Going for the kiss and even sex on the first date seems to make for a stronger connection. This starts the relationship sooner since most women get a stronger connection from sex than men do. But I keep hearing to play it slow, from many people and books I read.

I just read a post from someone who was at this girl’s house and did nothing. Everyone is responding that he should have acted and went in for it. But don’t you think this would make her want you even more?? You are playing it slow, and hard to get?

I’d like to hear everyone’s opinion on this subject. I have played it both ways and have success and failures respectively.

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you get to feel for it after being in similar situations multiple times. Just go with what feels right, dont over think it.

variety is the spice of life

It doesn't really matter if you go fast or slow. Both ways you can get what you want. Most people try to explain why did get a certain result because of what they have done. The more important thing is HOW you do it. If you go fast without being needy or go slow without looking scared or nervous then it's fine. Find what suits your personality best and works for you

Well I keep reading that people waited too long to make the move and now they lost their chance. But I just dont understand. When a guy starts seeing a girl and she plays hard to get it just makes her hotter and he wants her even more. (at least for me) So why doesnt this work the other way? Keep in mind im not talking about holding out for months just a few dates..

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I have fucked a chick at a party and have been going out with her ever since..

I have also fucked a chick and got nothing more than a buyers remorse..


I think you have to go with your gut intuition on this one.

I recently had an experience where i progressively hooked up with this girl over a few weeks. making out - handjob - blowjob - then the night she let me have sex with her....she was blacked out drunk. Being much less drunk, I told her in a nice way that I would rather have sex another time when she would remember it, which I think was a good move on my part. Well....that pretty much sealed the deal for being just friends. Don't know what happened in her head....but something clicked or didn't click and it was over. good luck

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In my opinion slow is best. But really keep your eyes open it's not TOO slow. She needs to keep being interested in you.. I know the desire from my ex when we first had sex was very big when I kept taking it slow.

Its just stange how when playing it slow for women gives them so much more power than it does for men.. or am I wrong?

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Many girls like to take it slower if they consider you dating material. Someone explained the reason for this to me once, but like most things girls say it didn't make any sense to me and I discarded it to the part of my brain that stores similar really important information like stuff about crocheting and flower arrangement.

If they just want to fuck you then they're not so bothered by it.

All relationships are different of course, just try your luck and see how it goes.

Loll I like that part!

Well mutha fucker it just depends on the situation... lol

But I like to use a 3 meeting rule by the 3rd time the deal should be sealed or pretty dam close, maybe it wasn't closed because of the location or period or some other strange girl reason.

Also on each occasion you want build the intensity so by the 3rd its so natural to fuck each others brains out. If nothing has happen by the 3rd or the intensity hasn't been built up to more than kissing I pretty much rule it over with said girl

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