Progessivley got better with this girl over 3 weeks. We go out with friends she is a friend of a friend. She keeps acting like she likes me. Then she says" I really like you". So I say do you want to go on a date with me? She responds with yea lets go to disneyland. I'm like well its kind of expensive and a full day, lets try coffee first. She's like OK. Then like I ask her to kiss me later and she says no. But then she gets on my lap in the front seat of the car. I start kissing her hand and stuff. Then we drop all the girls off at there house. I facebook message her asking for her number when I got home because I forgot to ask for it. She replys 15 hours later. "Magnum45, I think you are so sweet as a friend, but as far as dating goes, I'm just not interested at this point in time in my life".

So I'm like WTF. Like this girl was sending me IOI's like crazy. She allowed me to be all over her. I thought she liked me. I kissed her and she was on my lap. Then it's like WTF. She tells me this. Sure maybe I messaged her to soon to ask for her number but I wasn't planning on calling her. I just forgot to get her number at the bar. WTF. She must have told herself something about me in her mind to lose interest. WTF is that shit. Seriously.

Now my question. I'm slowly calming down, and realizing I didn't care about the bitch to begin with. Now what is my course of action. Remove her from friends. Pretend to be ok with this. Bitch at her for sending me mixed signals.... WTF do I do.

I guess in my own mind the best thing to do is to is pretend like I dont' care. Be a gentleman about it. I'm so pissed right now, but as the mintues pass I'm calming and caring less. I won't probably care tommorrow morning. This Fucking sucks.

WTF did i do wrong. Did I seriously fuck up the DATE just because I faceebook messaged her too soon? She was so easy going. WTF.

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You could have mis calliberated your kino, so although it was fun then she could be afraid that meeting you could again lead to physical. What kind of emotional investment does she has in you?
I'd recommend

Yep i think you did for sure, but did u stop to think maybe she was gaming you jus to have fun, and if thats the case then u playin in to her trap. Don't get me wrong still pursue just use her web to get herself causght in.
I would wait a week or so then take her out and re feel the situation out, DONT SEEM NEEDY when u talk to her, this i very important

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Well I asked her to kiss me and she said no. So it's kind of like expected that we kiss next time we go out. Not very much emotional investment.

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I'm not really sure what emotional investment means. Literally.

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You gotta be kidding me ! Its like saying: I asked her to get horny and she said no So its kind of expected that she gets horney the next time !!!

You dont just ask for a kiss like a candy. What did you do for her to find you so irrestable that she would be excited/want to kiss you.

Emotional Investment in its simplest explanation is when a girl is sharing her thoughts/emotions/passions/feelings with you. She is letting you in her IN her life. It could evry well be secrets, desires, fantasies etc.. A Strong Bonding/connection

Yea we had that. She was asking me what was up. I started complaing about how girls end up being friends in my life and how much I hate it. She replied, "I have guys that are just friends in my life and nothing ever happens, I understand". Then she wanted a story so I told her one about a skeleton in a cave. She of course loved it. But I didn't even care about this girl at all. Then on facebook she adds me as a friend.
So I post on her wall, "thanks for the ADD."
Then she's like no thank you! and i hope you had a great b-day.
I said yea it started off with you thanks for sharing that corona with me.
Shes like lets do it again sometime.

Then I see her a week later and she is so happy to see me. She listens to me all night long we talk about disney land and then she says something like "I really like you" So I'm like, " Do you want to go on a date?" Shes like, " Yea lets go to disneyland" I'm like, " lets do coffee first" Shes like."ok".

Then I get home message her asking for her number because I forgot to get it at the bar. She replies"I just want to be friends" line. I am so confused. This is the worst feeling in the world. My guy buddy said she was all over me and he can't believe she said that. NO IDEA what the fuck is going on. The only thing I can think of is that I messaged her too soon. But shit man i was just drunk. I also posted this youtube video in my request when I asked for her number. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ILbS7K2iF70

Maybe she looked to much into my youtube link??????

So yea I sent her a inbox message back last night, while i was furious, saying "What? ARe you serious?"

She hasn't replied and I am so pissed off. I just want to remove her from my friends list and move on with my life, but I am afraid that isn't the gentleman thing to do. But she was so rude. That was just wrong what she did. So wrong. SO fucking wrong. I'm so upset.

Plus I know I will see her again, and I have no idea how I am going to act. I am so hurt by her. She fucked me over royally. Jesus, how did this fucking happen.

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Your first problem was when she asked you on fun date to disney land you DLV yourself by saying it was expensive, it made you look poor and her feel cheap. Secondly you made her feel like ass by saying you didn't want to spend a full day with her. She thought you were expecting her to be a easy, cheap screw... and it messed whatever game you had with her. The only reason I say that is because it seems like you had a little going before the date.

That one statement put into her mind that you read into your dates that "this girl owes me something for taking them on a date", so she felt bad and let you get some. That doesn't mean she liked you, it's just a girl being polite. You see how pissed off you are? She knew that would happen, and even worse if she just completely gave you the cold shoulder. That's why she was letting you get a little action without it being to awkward. She felt bad and awkward that you took her on a date and she wanted to do something to return the favor.


Sorry bro, but you just need to AMOG and leave her alone.

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3 weeks is a lot of time to wait for the first kiss, and besides you were too needy (give me a kiss, kissing her on the arm when she didn't want you too, "forcing her" on a date) and all the general SPAM ... you told her how girls never want more from you then just being friends?... are you a MORON!!! what if I'll try to sell you a.. I dunno a CHICKEN, and while doing so I'll tell you how it's weird that no one wants to buy it.. YOU WON"T WANT TO BUY IT THEN!!

youre whole mindset was wrong her

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[quote="igetit"][quote="magnum45"]Progessivley got better with this girl over 3 weeks. We go out with friends she is a friend of a friend. She keeps acting like she likes me. Then she says" I really like you". So I say do you want to go on a date with me? She responds with yea lets go to disneyland. I'm like well its kind of expensive and a full day, lets try coffee first. She's like OK.

Another way to avoid looking cheap and her feeling like she's not worth the full day is to let her know you have other stuff going on but you really want to see her and you just have time for coffee. This way you add value b/c you're busy and she feels improtant b/c you fit her in.

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Agreed. What do you mean AMOG? Just ignore her?
Agreed.
Agreed

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