Hey man.

If I were you I would take my own advice. People tend to project onto others their own realities.

Jurupa
You're right that no two men are the same. As far as nerdy talk working better than making guys feel good: I'm already doing this: I've taken enough math and physics to talk intelligently. But several have told me that I don't make them feel needed, and that some of the things I say are cutting. I'd like to be the opposite of that.

In fact, it's the nerdy talk that turns me on to these men in the first place. As far as "having all this trouble with men," I'm not. It's just that the kind of man I like is rare (though not the tall/good looking type other women tend to like), so I can't afford to mess up once I find the right one. I was dating a great guy up until a few weeks ago, when I decided I wasn't interested in anything long term with him.

Chief:

I've read Why Men Love Bitches. The issue is that I lean too far towards the "independent bitch" side of the spectrum, so I may need the opposite advice.

The Doctor: I'll check out your site, thanks.