I love and hate dancing. From my workfield this is my point of view..hoping it helps
In my early days I tried to get the chicks' attention by dancing with hype and sending flirting signals. It wasn't working at all. First, I was disqualifying myself unconsciously by trying too hard and flirting overtly with body language without opening first. Then I realized that I was just fetching tons of unnecessary competition on me, because..there will always be some other joe trying to dance better than the other males hoping to get the girl.
So I screwed all up and dance in the way that fits for myself. I observed that since I have changed my tactics, I can focus more fast and better and choosing the target more accurately. So I got the more important thing which is to be relaxed, and to send the right embers.. I obtained this after many friday nights of practice, adjusting my mindset and tactics in order to be able making eye in the eye approach even if she's moving. When eye in the eye, I start to smile, talk and touch. Well.. this seems to pay back in steroids
