Dude... I know how you feel - trust me. I've been going through something very similar. As a matter of fact, I was gonna do EXACTLY what you were planning on doing. Take her back, then brutally dump her.

Let me tell you something: It took a lot of guys from the forum to beat some sense into me. But I finally realized: It's not worth it!

Don't be a crybaby because you're pride has been hurt. Don't be a crybaby because SHE dumped YOU and now you feel like getting some revenge.

No.
No.
No.

Shut those feelings away until you get your mind on the right path again. THEN, you will realize that all these "plans" for revenge and "getting your pride/ego back" is nothing but pathetic and stupid.

Don't fucking do it. Trust me on this one.

The true revenge here is living your life and moving on.

Zentrode.

thx Zen Im on my way

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Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

Mate don't roll like that, thats just sad :\ i agree with revenge in some cases but seriously maybe it was down to you that you split up sometimes we have to take things like that on the chin. I now know my girlfriend split up with me because i didn't portay the same strengths and attractive behaviours as i did at the beginning of our relationship and now im kicking myself. If you become needy and wussy there going to find you unattrative thats the way it works.

Im in the same boat. I started PUA and the third hookup pushed for a relationship. I stayed strong for about a month and that built attraction. I was with her for 6 months. I didnt do any game or research pua during this time and felt myself slowly returning to being an afc. I distanced myself from my friends and hobbies. I got feelings for her and then she broke up with me and wanted to be just friends. Shes texted me every day for a week saying things like "I miss you" and "going to the beach, wish you would go with me" but I stayed strong and didnt respond. She doesnt text me anymore. I was good at pickup before the relationship. I could consistently number close and kiss close. I was living the life I wanted to live. After the breakup I feel AFC again. I dont feel in state like I used to. I used to have that "its always on" mentality. Now I feel down in the dumps and antisocial. I went on one date since we broke up but all I could think about was my ex. I dont ever want to feel like this again. fuck emotions. fuck relationships. and fuck being an afc.

Damn that's heavy man. I do think emotions make life worth living. Though im still feeling down every once in a while it makes me feel alive. You can't see the light without the dark

anyway Im still trying to get over her. It does me a lot of good to read the shit everyone is posting here. It's exactly as what happened to my girlfriend LOL we are all in the same boat. I need to get out asap though

Im trying to get my life back on track. It's hard though, I have exams coming up and because of this break up bullshit I can't concentrate or study I feel like Im even going more down the shitter.

But the no contact thing is still up. I am over 2 weeks of no contact. I need 2 more weeks to go, after the exams I have planned to contact her again Let's see what it will get me.

Anyway good luck mate, don't waste your time on shitty girlfriends.

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Failure was never an option


Because girls don't like sex.. Yeah RIGHT!
Why else do you think girls have P*ssies

HELLLLOOOO!!!! Did you not listen to what she said? she wants more of a man! that means that 1. she doesnt have any respect for you. and 2. she thinks your an afc who's lives his life through her.

How do you change that? its not easy but it is necessary! why? because if you sit and mope around she will see that you are the same sorry chump that she left and they you would take her back no matter what!

Ok so first of all you need to you confidence back. Not only to show her that you are a man and dont need her to be happy but also for your self. here is a list of things I want you do do and when you do trust me you will feel much better about your self and your situation!

1. Go out and "up grade" your self - Go get a new hair cut, go buy no clothing and become more modern. Why? because not only will you have more confidence in your self but when she see's you she will shit her self! lol she will see that you actually have changed. Go look at magazines and get style ideas and ask the hairhair stylist to give you a new look much diffrent from what you have now.

2. Go to the gym...alot!: Go get a gym membership, get on a diet to either loose weight, gain muscle...what ever it is that you need to do? Go out and buy your self some supplements to help reach your goal faster and to motivate you...again this is a confedence builder, a great way to relieve stress, and what looks better to your ex girlfriend? a fit, healthy, man with style or a crying baby who is out of shape and sits around eating ice cream in his basment? lol

3. Go out with friends and make new ones - go out with your friend, flirt with women and remeber you have been with your gf for 3 years so you might be a little rusty in the pua game...dont worry if you get turned down it will happen to the best of us! get out meet new people, take up new hobbies and and just talk to people! the more you sit around the more you will think about your ex...and who knows mabey you will enjoy the single life, or mabey you will meet another women who you really like?

4. Stop puting your ex on a pedestal - As hard as this might be to hear you need to hear it...she left you move on! If you get back togeather than great but do it on your terms not hers! If she says she wants to work things out you shouldnt take her back right away...tell her she needs to earn your trust back and that she hurt you ect ect...take things slow and be the man! dont be a baby and become an afc all over again.

5. Dont talk to her for atleast two weeks - Let her know that you are going to stop talking to her for a little while and that now that you have had time to think about your relationship you think that perhaps a break up was a good thing. Agree with what she says, be nice, wish her the best and then cut her off for two weeks...this will give you time to think and go out and have fun. After two weeks if you want? call her or txt her to see how she is doing...make small talk and dont be an afc and tell her "I love you" or "I miss you"...again if she wants you back make her do the work! and if she doesnt then move on its her loss....

The bottom line is that yes she broke up with you and that sucks! your heart broken but are you still alive? yes...and you have your health so go have fun and enjoy life!

Here are some songs that are helping me out of my slump:

Kid Rock - Sugar
Young Money - She's Gone
Eminem - Superman