a couple days ago i went on a date with this girl. this was the third time i've seen her since we met a couple weeks ago. i ended up bringing her back to my house for a little bit at the end. although we didnt get to sex, i escalated things a lot and moved pretty fast due to the short amount of time. towards the end it seemed as though she was uncomfortable with what happened. even though she never really resisted to much or said anything it was obvious that she was kind of overwhelmed afterwards.

since then she has not initiated any conversation by phone or text(she consistantly has for the last two weeks) and has been slow at the least in responding to my texts or calls. also seems less enthusiastic and exited about things. this has not happened before with her and i am afraid that i have lost a lot of comfort and trust. i am confident that i can win her over again, but i am not sure exactly how to do it over phone or text? i want to take her to a non-sex location and rebuild sexual tension and comfort, but i need to gain her trust back over texting first. especially since she has already been sort of flaky before. does anyone have any advice on what i should do or say? also, should i apologize for coming on to strong or should i just restart from scratch?

i would say to call her, and your on the ball with taking her to a public place that way she wont feel uncomfortable, if it was me i would try a little kino on her and see how she responds but the only real way you will know is to ask her, not bluntly but ask her how she feels etc, for the less promiscuous girls sex can be a big deal

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thankyou for the advice jish. the problem is that in the past she has been unresponsive to phone calls. i think it would be more probable that she will respond to text. should i initiate with something normal and tell her to call later, or would it be better to open with something relating to the issue? also, i have never had this happen so i dont really know how girls normally respond to this kind of thing. talking to my lady friends i have gotton mixed answers. can things like this make girls lose interest in u completely?

The reason you have gotten mixed answers from your woman friends is because all girls have different views on sex,
I would say something normal because if you go straight into it you will pressure her and she will run further, this is ofcourse assuming that sex IS what she found the problem to be, sometimes you think you know the problem and its something way left field.
Also i try hard not to use phones and keep interactions in person because in person she cant think for 10 minutes on how to perfectly structure her reply, you can read he body language and you can ask alot of questions at the same time, also you can 'home in' on the main question by asking little questions around it- beating around the bush i guess'- which you cant do in 1-2 texts.

Can things like this make girls lose intrest in you completely, well yes and no- there was always an attraction there so if the flame is going out you can always re-ignite it, butif it was something that she really, really didnt see coming then yes it can.

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My suggestoin is if she takes a step back, you should to... You know she likes you so what she's doing right now is nothing but a "defense mechanism" based on some sort of experience (whatever that is).

So give it a good two week break and try calling her or texting her to say hi or something..

concentrate on other girls during the two weeks so you don't get one-itis..

You just answered your own question the right way if she hasn't been seduced enough then go back to the comfort stage and rebuild sexual tension.

Good luck man
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thankyou everyone that posted. i talked to the girl last night and i got another date looks like im just gonna have to rebuild comfort now!

good work man, happy for you.

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