From the fall of 2008 to the spring of 2009 I went in the same class as a girl to whom I was attracted since the day we met. We talked a few times, but it never went anywhere else than small talk. I'd not consider this attraction an one-itis but perhaps a smaller crush.

Now, just last weekend I meet her again at this party with loads of my old classmates with whom I was sitting on the far end of a couch. She was on the otherside of the room and she approaches me grabbing a seat on a chair opposite to me and initiated conversation. We had a lively conversation which got pretty deep at some points and I could spot several IOIs. There was kinos and I sensed genuine intersted in her questions. As I was a kino-escalating I use a simile about sex upon which she asks me whether I'm a virgin or not. I was flinched by this question at first but managed to answer that it was none of her business before she noticed I flnched.

She wasn't drinking that much that evening because she had been out the night before but I on the other hand drank way to much and went completely nuts. I am aware of the fact that alcohol and PUA doesn't go hand in hand. At the moment the question had been posed I felt that I lost her but the conversation went on but I could feel more and more as time passed that she kept talking to me to be polite.

As mentioned I felt her fade away after this question of me being a virgin or not and since I am I was completely confused. What should I have done? How could I have responded to this? How could I have saved the set after this total failure?

I always say something like "my mother always told me never to kiss and tell" when people ask me questions like that... I'm not too sure if its a correct response but it gives the notion that its not your first time but your also not a playboy

idk though... take my advice with a grain of salt

Well, are you a virgin?

Dont answer that, its just that if you are if might show if you are talking about sex in a way that you wouldnt if you have had it.

Thats a bad question to ask somebody but I would be honest if I were you.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

How did she got to that question ?

You could say something like "wow from X subject to sex..." and teased her about that a lil bit in funny way... Or you can always ask her same question... "I will answer you, but 1st you must answer me your own question, then ill tell you"

She cant look at you weird or anything, because actually she is the one who asked that question...

I used the line "I'm not out hunting for sex, I'm not gay or anything but I would prefer to have sex with a meaning" with a smile

Arent gay people hunting for sex?

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Well if you are a virgin or even if your not tell her you are then be like
"Haha, maybe if your lucky u can take advantage of me"
I like this idea gets her to jump through your hoop instead you to hers

good one

my reply to this is to answer in a cocky and funny teasing manner, like Shane0069 said. don't give a straight answer, yes or no, and especially not yes!
and don't flinch, that's like a yes, only worse because you're also showing your vulnerability to it (a DLV).

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