Back last July I'd been reading lots of books on all kinds of stuff.
If any of you are familiar with 'cosmic ordering' or The Secret and stuff like that, then you'll understand what I mean when I decided that I was gonna meet the ideal woman for me by end of August. I thought this would be from my nights out or maybe daytime.
As coincidence would have it, in Aug a friend told me to join him on a speed dating night, which I did. And I got a lot of interest from a single MILF who I liked as well. We went out a couple of times, made out too, and I thought it was all great. However, a couple of weeks later she said she'd met someone else and was sorry.
To me this meant one of two things, either she wasn't really what I 'ordered', or slightly more depressingly, she was - but found someone else more interesting!

Last week I sent a big emailshot to ppl I know nearby about my band's debut gig coming up. She was on it and replied quite enthusiastically about coming to watch. I said thanks, then she told me she'd 'lost her way' in the time since, that I always made her laugh and she enjoyed listening to what I had to say on things and that she wanted to meet up with me! I've agreed to this, mainly because I wanna know what she meant and what really happened.

So I was wondering what would happen if I told her the above? Would it produce a self-fulfilling prophecy? Or would she think I was a whacko?

Personally I would not tell her because its something she doesn't need to know. And by telling her you may put unnecessary pressure on yourself and her to fulfil this 'Prophecy' of yours.

I have read the secret and while I believe that positive thinking does attract positive things into your life, I also believe that you cant put a time limit on it like you did for august.

I think you have to look into the reasons as to why she left in the first place. You said she was a MILF so that means she has got kids, chances are this other guy she was seeing was probably something more stable and she was doing it for the sake of her children. However she has realised that what may be better for her children may not be the best for her, so she has come back to you after seeing the photo and remembering the good times.

Just talk to her and ask her what she is looking for. I think her answer will be adventure, fun and security. If you can offer that then go for it.

hope this helps.

Thanks for the reply jester101.

You were quite insightful there, because she is a good mum from what I gather, and right now I have absolutely nothing in a material sense to offer her. Although that would change when I'm a rock star.
She knows I don't work and that I love it.

She cancelled on tonight but wants to do next w/e. The main thing is she's coming to the show!