been hooking up with this HB for about a month, f closed tonight .

but she still wont go down on me. the first time i asked she was like idk idk idk. and i asked her and she goes i've only done that once before and she nervous. shes 18 im 22. it led to some other stuff but still i wanted the j.

ive asked her 2 other times since then and shes said no.

any tips on trying to ease her into doin this? i'm sure someone out there has experienced this before so help would be great. thanks guys.

I had sort of a similar problem, i made her feel comfortable by me going down on her. There could be alot of reasons to this, she said she did it once, i'm guessing it wasnt very pleasant for her one way or another.

Ross Jefferies BJ pattern?

But seriously sexual expression and freedom is all about comfort. It is possible that she has had an experience so bad that she will never feel that comfort. It is possible that you have seduced her so thoroughly that she is self concious about it. Or it is possible at the age of 18 she just hasn't come to terms with the dirty side of sex yet.

No matter what you only option is to build comfort and gently encourage her to let the freak out.

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I have only had maybe two girls refuse to go down on me. They said they only do that for the "man they loved". What bullshit after a 2 hour fuck session right?

Anyway. 69 position even partially clothed is a good place to be. It pushes a guilt response in a lot of women. Receiving pleasure while not returning the favor is something a lot of people have to get use to. Plus its inches from there face and even the most prude woman will pull it out and tug on it. So, its a good starting point.

I also explain in truth that its hard for me to come with condoms, so oral is the only way i can usually get off in any decent amount of time.

Go down on her until shes really enjoying and stop.. shell be like wtf keep going! then say no not until u gimme some and give her ur dick to suck.. shell be horny and wont second think it

too rude for an insecure girl, besides, she doesn't want too. think about it if u get a BJ and then the girl stop and says.. "not until you'll eat some of my feces (yes it happens) would you?
you should make sex (as everyone else said) enjoyable and comfortable for her too, don't force her to do things she doesn't want

stop asking her, you just make her even more insecure. just go down on her (a lot) and give her some good lovin too, she already knows that you want a BJ, so after a few of those she'll do it herself.

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Never have understood why some women will let you bang them, but they are scared of a dick in their mouth.

my secret weapon is road head. honest to god start playing blue reflector or what ever you play where you get naked while driving around and it happens every time just bout. as soon as her pants come off tease her. its happened prob 90% of the time

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some girls just aren't into it, there might be a reason for it, maybe past sexual trauma. either way you cant make her do what she doesn't want to do, just leave it alone, or else she'll start to resent you if you do get it from pressuring her

"Never have understood why some women will let you bang them, but they are scared of a dick in their mouth."


I hope you're joking Van Haven!!!!!

None of you have mentioned cleanliness yet.

A guy can smell REALLY quickly - the ammonia in your urine can be REALLY overpowering - I'm sure some of you have gine to the toilet at one point and smelt it whilst standing up. Well imagine having it right next to your nose! We're talking about right next to your pee hole here!!

This is a natural thing of course, but from taling to friends I'm amazed at how dirty some guys dicks are - I have heard horror stories about dick cheese


I'm not saying that women smell like roses either! But in my opinion, a smelly penis stinking of ammonia is FAR FAR worse than an average woman's bad smell (some of you might disagree but hey).

When it comes to sex, women won't really care how clean it is - as long as they can't smell it from a meter away! But if it's up close and personal it's a different matter.

If you have a woman that seems a bit resistant to the idea, make sure that you have a very good wash (and yet that involves giving the foreskin a damn good clean) before she tries it. Otherwise you could possibly kiss goodbuy to future oral encounters. It would be like you going down on a woman who has old, stale period blood still in there - not nice!!

...totally right!!!

I shave down below, and clean it...
And I don't have foreskin...

an X talked me into it, and she is right, you want a clean shaved woman that take care of herself, so it's only fair you'll do the same

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"StreetLight!! Stop seeing every problem in life like it's a chick you didn't hit on!"

I take care of myself down there all the time, and I get your point. However, when it comes to satisfying my sexual partner I'll make the sacrifice and go down on her. Do I enjoy it? Not particularly, but I do what it takes to make her have a good time.

an interesting sidenote (sidenote because you are past this point already):

I've noticed that any girl that I have told (before I banged her the first time) that "well, you are probably not very good in bed anyhow"... will deny it... and when you do bang her, she will rise to the challenge - everything on the menu and she gives it 110%

caveat: I haven't really told too many girls this, it just kinda came out a few times for one reason or another

nice! im going to try this next time

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...totally right!!!

I shave down below, and clean it...
And I don't have foreskin...
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You're kidding about forskin right? Mine is cut too, but forskin is there for a reason. It gives extra pleasure to both guy and girl. Most girls who say they hate it, they can't even tell the diff by looking at a hard cock and all the rumor about it being uncleaner than cut is bullshit. I send a link from Penn and Teller Bullshit about forskin and also write down a few hints when I wake up. too sleepy
nightt .... or maybe I should say goodmorning as it is 7:42 am! :S

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