Hey everyone,
Nice to (eventually) meet you all. I'm pretty much a newbie, though I've been stalking this forum once in a while and reading random articles for the past 3 months now. I haven't had much success, and so I figure I need some real feedback that I might find here, before throwing down any amount of money for the bootcamps.

So a little bit on my history. I just turned 23, single, and have terrible confidence issues with girls. I think it has to do with me being picked on an awful lot for being a skinny nerdy kid in middle school, which then transitioned into the emo boy who tried to compensate for his social skills by just destroying academically. I was the kid that slept through class and got the highest grades in school. Sort of continued into college, where I got used to earning respect purely for being the class "genius".

What happened was, I never ever approached a girl my entire life, though I did go out with two girls who persistently tried to hit on me. The second relationship lasted almost 3 years, until I got tired of it and broke up. Thats also when I graduated, and moved to Oceanside, CA where I now occasionally dream of still being in college. That's also when I realized I need to do something about my game, because for someone who was considered intelligent, I cannot for the life of me apply PUA techniques. At first I thought I would just read these articles, stalk the forums, and work some magic, but then I realized, when I'm in ANY sort of moment with a girl, I am only stressing about what witty things to say, or what compelling statement to make, and that stress alone breaks me apart while conversing.

I'm Asian, 6'4, very athletic build, (recently learned to be) stylish, and I've had girls approach me, and many times more give me glances and smiles..but the only girls I've ever kissed are still my 2 ex's. It's quite pathetic really. But at least I've come to grips with that, and now look forward to making some changes, and I hope to get whatever guidance I can get from here. Thanks all!

Sorry for double posting, but just to follow up, I'm not necessarily anti-social. Like I always tell my friend (who's really good with the ladies), put me in a room with 10 guys, and I can have at least 5 of them consider me an alpha male and make me their best friends by the end of a day. I can relate to people really well, but something tells me that relating to girls isn't "entertaining" enough for them to hook up with me or anything. I don't know how true that is, but watching the way my friend light up girls makes me very self conscious of going the "boring" route that I do with guys.

In any case, I'm here to learn, so throw on the criticism!

Hey, I'm in about the same situation. It's nice to meet you!

haha i envy ur height, i'm 5'6 (i guess?) , asian
newbie here too haha
but reallly,
LET GO OF ALL THE WORRIES AND JUMP INTO THE WORLD

Nice to meet you guys too.

I agree, we just need to let go of all the worries. Now to find out how to shut off that part of my brain.. haha

Hey Guys, for Super_m there is only one big mistake, and it's being an EMO gay. For the rest you can be not worried because most of the PUA's were shy guys who were worried about every small problem in their lifes like being skinny, nerd or something.

I can tell you right now my buddy, that is not a problem, that are opportunities for improve that skills being another person, change your entire way of see the life and being focus every time, every day. You can read Double your dating as a beginning, is a very easy and fun book, I read this book everytime I feel lack of confidence. Then you read the book, you can read the PUA's lounge stuff of Slywalker, he is a very good poster.

Remember, all you need is confidence and being happy for the new change of your life, you'll see the difference my men, I was like you, the same history, now I´m very happy for my success with women, my friends are very different with me and I just can stop studing this shit, is Awesome!!

Good luck, let me know your positive life change!!

[quote="super_m"]Hey everyone,
Nice to (eventually) meet you all. I'm pretty much a newbie, though I've been stalking this forum once in a while and reading random articles for the past 3 months now. I haven't had much success, and so I figure I need some real feedback that I might find here, before throwing down any amount of money for the bootcamps.

So a little bit on my history. I just turned 23, single, and have terrible confidence issues with girls. I think it has to do with me being picked on an awful lot for being a skinny nerdy kid in middle school, which then transitioned into the emo boy who tried to compensate for his social skills by just destroying academically. I was the kid that slept through class and got the highest grades in school. Sort of continued into college, where I got used to earning respect purely for being the class "genius".

What happened was, I never ever approached a girl my entire life, though I did go out with two girls who persistently tried to hit on me. The second relationship lasted almost 3 years, until I got tired of it and broke up. Thats also when I graduated, and moved to Oceanside, CA where I now occasionally dream of still being in college. That's also when I realized I need to do something about my game, because for someone who was considered intelligent, I cannot for the life of me apply PUA techniques. At first I thought I would just read these articles, stalk the forums, and work some magic, but then I realized, when I'm in ANY sort of moment with a girl, I am only stressing about what witty things to say, or what compelling statement to make, and that stress alone breaks me apart while conversing.

I'm Asian, 6'4, very athletic build, (recently learned to be) stylish, and I've had girls approach me, and many times more give me glances and smiles..but the only girls I've ever kissed are still my 2 ex's. It's quite pathetic really. But at least I've come to grips with that, and now look forward to making some changes, and I hope to get whatever guidance I can get from here. Thanks all![/quote]

Haha, well hows the weather up there man? What i would suggest to you after reading an article from gambler is to do a scary thing, and that is, take it one day at a time, like 1st day go out and talk to 3 women, next day 5 women, the next make a discussion with 3 women, and then after a few more days go out and try to get a kiss from a lady, you get where this is all going? Slowly but surely u'll get there man, I am goin out for day one and you know start a discussion with 3 men, and 3 women lol it makes it a hell of an experience, and try some of this and then bootcamps if you need that little extra push man, peace from The Wave

Thanks for the wisdom guys. I definitely need to just go and talk to girls more. Can't get over that fear of them thinking im a creepy guy, but I suppose after 100 of those encounters, there's no way I can still have that fear.

The fear is always there but aftr you've pushed past it enough times, it becomes natural.

It's like a veteran going into war. The guy is always afraid because he knows today could be his last. He also knows that if he doesn't gt his shit together, today will be his last. So he ignores the fear and continues forward. that's what you have to learn to do.

Also, I think the fact that you're 6'4" and have an athletic build highly contributes to people viewing you as an alpha male. I only tell you this because you need to get a personality that matches.

I mean fuck, if some guy was looking down to make eye contact with someone with a bicep the size of their head, they'd probably find it pretty intimidating lol.

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