Hey, I'm in trouble. I have been using this material from the forum and other sources to a point where it's become pretty effective. I have trouble just talking to one girl at a time and I love the challenge of meeting a new HB and seeing if I can win her over. I really like getting to know them and being friends as well as the benefits involved. But after approx 2 weeks, they start asking questions on where our relationship is going and they want to be exclusive because they know i talk to other girls. How do i continue the fun we have of the first few weeks without letting them down and them hating me? It seems no matter what i do. After 2 weeks i lose my new friend. I don't like it. Any help? Thanks..

Hmm well I agree with gaming a few girls, but don't do to many as you can get caught and mess things up.

When they ask where it's going, just say I want it to go wherever it goes, like go with the flow and enjoy our time together, usually a girl will like this. Try making out with her then f closing them soon after and you'll have a good connection.

Well, I have developed a habit that when we are about to make-out I give a disclaimer that, "look I am not ready to be in a relationship, so if you are expecting one, then we shouldn't do this...."...and honestly, to my actual surprise at first, I have never had a girl walk away...I think the challenge of it almost makes them want it more...I think they think they can win me over....and when the "2 weeks" of them trying to get me exclusive, I can always revert back to, if pressed into a corner, "we talked about this at the forefront...."

...Basically, it sets the frame. If she DOES walk away, you are better for it, especially if you have other options like the GAME is suppose to give you. This is key if you don't want a relationship because you will end up in one if you let her set THAT frame OR you become the typical asshole because you didn't qualify it and girls ALWAYS want someone else to be responsible for their sexcapades.

Happy Hunting......

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If she asks you where it's going, try the false disqualifier like, 'i'm not boyfriend type' at the same time, kiss her. these mixed signals will not make her runaway from you if she sees you with another girl.

this is a good mixed signal idea...but remember, as I said above, you run the route of being the manipulator and making it THAT much harder for the next guy to win her heart....this is why dishonesty is terrible because it fucks someone over. The REASON girls need to be so gamed in the first place is because somewhere along the line they have been fucked over by some guy just wanting to fuck her and lying/manipulating her to get it....

.....if you just want to fuck her, fine, but at least be up front about it so she doesn't go into the shell so deep no one gets her....or at least she made the choice to do it knowing full well your intentions... Again, this would seem, by being honest, you will lose the chance, but I am telling you, when I have been up front, the girls are surprisingly 1) shocked I am honest and 2) Don't mind it........

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I feel you, and as many of us in the community, we have been there..

Telling her that you would just like to "see where things go", go with the flow.. w/e.. is probably your number one option.. Girls in the short term will accept this.

However, you can only string girls along for so long. there is only a small percentage of girls out there who will willingly go with a "f*** buddy" scenario. So if you plan to not settle into a relationship, you have to keep things interesting, or move on. Eventually, you will have to make a choice, and if the choice is that you do not want to enter an exclusive relationship with her, eventually, you will have to cut it off.

Last year, for me things got out of hand... and i had in one night three conversations "So what exactly are we?" the answer was, we were JUST having sex. though I didn't say this, I knew by not either committing, or breaking it off, I was opening myself up to a whirlwind MORE of these conversations in the future. because it does NOT just go away. Girls are not stupid.. you can't string them along forever. It's just one of the components of the game.

Thank you for all of your input so far. You all bring up very good points and offer some solutions. I don't want to manipulate or deceive, but like to have fun at the same time.

I guess it's part of the downside having to break off relationships that are kinda awesome.

Breaking thing off with a girl is not something i want to become good at or robotic about but it seems like it's heading that way. They all say the same thing. "that they can never tell what i'm thinking or how i feel about them" I don't tell them that this is intentional because i don't want them to get too attached, but it makes them like me more because i seem mysterious and they want to know what goes on.

Yikes. haha

Yep, girls seem to be attracted to that which they can't control....but then they work over-time to try and control you every time they are with you...lol.

And they are so good at it all....lol

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I've done the whole MLTR thing before. They both knew there were other girls. And most girls are totally cool with it....until they actually see the other girl, and that's when all hell breaks loose.

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