Hey all,

I just wanted to say hello and tell you my story and how I've wound up posting on here tonight.

Ok, I'll get the depressing stuff out of the way first, get ready to hear miniture violins playing! I'm currently 23, and unti October was with my girlfriend for 3 and a half years. Following uni we moved in together. To cut a long story short after a fantastic summer holiday in Italy I came back to some bad news, my gran was really sick. So first weekend back I flew up to see her on her death bed. When I got back to the flat all my girlfriends stuff was gone, I phoned her and she said she was leaving me because "she only loved me like a brother now, we want different things, I'm too ambitious and work too much" bitch.

As you can imagine my confidence has taken a bit of a beating from it. But last week was a wierd one. Thursday night a went for a quite drink with some people from work, and it ended up me and this girl (whos 36 but fairly hot) telling me how much she likes me but shes moving away soon so if anything happened it couldnt be more than a fling?!? Not sure how I'm gonna handle this yet as shes away and off work all week and I think shes fairly embarrased (we were both very drunk). Any advice would be appriciated!

Secondly on saturday I was having a few drinks with a mate in town. Now hes pretty good with girls and got us talking to three girls. Now I was an idiot, my conversation was awful and I was acting painfully shy. But one of the girls (by far the most attractive girl this has ever happened to me with) started bumping and grinding against me. I got a little more confident. She then tried to knick me drink but I thought wtf and said to her, you can have some in exchange for a kiss on the cheek. To which she turned, put her arms around my neck and full on snogged me for a good few minutes. And guys she was stunning.

Ok so neither major achievements and my confidence and charisma when I talk to random girls is still poor, but it's given me a glimpse of what I could have in the future.

So any advice on where I get started please let me know! I'm tried of being such a nice guy. I'd rather be a good bloke.

Cheers guys

JJT

Hey, read your intro post. Your ex will be something you will look back on and laugh. It's good to start now, now is better than never. The only advice I can give you in regards to your friend, is to go with the flow. Call her up, arrange a movie night at her place/or your place. Make excuses to touch, say you helped your neighbor with yard work all day or something. your back hurts. She may end up rubbing your back. Then offer to repay the favor. This is where you take it as far as she lets you. Rub her back, neck, thighs, and so on. If she doesn't fight, kiss the back of her neck, breathe on her ear, and os on. Keep moving the level up and up. If not push back, rub her vag through her pants. No push back, go under her jeans and put the tip of your finger in. (Do all this while kissing). Eventually it'll lead to sex. Then again I could be way off, just my opinion. I would DEF listen to the more experience guys here first, since I've only had two girlfriends.

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