^Some interesting experiences there, nice. Samex, my (main) ex was the same.
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Everyone has flaws and things they dont like about you. Surely it's up to them to find them? I'm not perfect and don't appear to be, so why would I show vulnerability?
Surely my vulnerability is that I am not perfect.
Trixta, I think your question has already been answered here:
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My friend met an hb9 that i was seeing about a year back. I nearly laid her but for some reason it didnt happen.
She told him that it was because i couldnt jsut be myself when it was one on one and was too perfect all of the time.
They definitely need to see vulnerability, to make themselves comfortable with you, and put themselves at ease.
I find the issue is also more prevalent in what I call the 'second half' of the game, i.e. after the during and after the laying phase. I would expect that people who close and and MLTR more experience this problem more, but of course it depends a lot on personality too. We should also note that vulnerability, in terms of pickup, does not = weakness.
P.S.
An update on this girl; she was sad I didn't visit her on V day, but I qualified her a bit and she replied with "thanks, you're such a nice genuine guy!"
(Mental lookup in bitch dictionary):
Main Entry: nice
Pronunciation: \ˈnīs\
Function: adjective
Meaning: Sexy
Main Entry: genuine
Pronunciation: \ˈjen-yə-wən, -(ˌ)win, ÷-ˌwīn\
Function: adjective
Meaning: Great in bed