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PostPosted: Fri Feb 12, 2010 10:17 pm 
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Haha, I don't watch those things Lily you know that. This game is...DUNNO. Btw I prefer girl pants to French Knickers girl - like, that's not even a name. I like Lily anyway. Off to footie soon. I'll be a "hero" ;). Have a mad one tonight ye. Keep your feet away from trouble.
Yesterday at 6:51pm ·

Lily:
Sorry, I forgot u don't stoop to my level when it comes to tv! haha man of the match i'm sure! No not a mad one, my feet are recuperating :) xxx
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I don't like the way you put that; there are no levels to me, and if there were, I would be on the lowest one. Haha. Good, I hope they recover :) x
This girl is a recent pickup who I laid on Monday, the day 2. All was looking gravy but she always made comments about how I do everything and how I'm good at everything. Whilst it might be a nice ego boost in the short-term, you might be seeding the well-known phenomena of being "too perfect" and lowering attraction.

I know this is nothing new. Just re-iterating. Because I felt it was a bit of a school boy error on my part and I'll probably quit this girl now whereas I was going to MLTR her.


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 1:14 am 
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Everyone has flaws and things they dont like about you. Surely it's up to them to find them? I'm not perfect and don't appear to be, so why would I show vulnerability?

Surely my vulnerability is that I am not perfect.


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Yah i had same situation... She was like you are so rare, so perfect blaaa blaaa....

And now after a while i got sick of it and i just said something like... Im not perfect, im just very close to it... Then i mentioned some "small" mistakes i made in my life just to prove her that im not that perfect (but nothing big...just tiny mistakes lol)... It works kuz she seemed like i "opened" to her and you know than she was again bla bla... :lol:


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haha this is priceless...mainly because your practice so much remaining cool in situations and then next you know it works against you..

MY ex hated the fact that nothing bothered me, and I never got irritated with anything. I didn't give a shit, because I saw it as a shit test. They may say they don't like that quality but I honestly think they thrive for it...

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My friend met an hb9 that i was seeing about a year back. I nearly laid her but for some reason it didnt happen.
She told him that it was because i couldnt jsut be myself when it was one on one and was too perfect all of the time.
They definitely need to see vulnerability, to make themselves comfortable with you, and put themselves at ease.


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Yah, they feel insecure if you are so god damn perfect lol... but its truth :).


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PostPosted: Mon Feb 15, 2010 6:38 pm 
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^Some interesting experiences there, nice. Samex, my (main) ex was the same.
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Everyone has flaws and things they dont like about you. Surely it's up to them to find them? I'm not perfect and don't appear to be, so why would I show vulnerability?

Surely my vulnerability is that I am not perfect.
Trixta, I think your question has already been answered here:
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My friend met an hb9 that i was seeing about a year back. I nearly laid her but for some reason it didnt happen.
She told him that it was because i couldnt jsut be myself when it was one on one and was too perfect all of the time.
They definitely need to see vulnerability, to make themselves comfortable with you, and put themselves at ease.
I find the issue is also more prevalent in what I call the 'second half' of the game, i.e. after the during and after the laying phase. I would expect that people who close and and MLTR more experience this problem more, but of course it depends a lot on personality too. We should also note that vulnerability, in terms of pickup, does not = weakness.

P.S.
An update on this girl; she was sad I didn't visit her on V day, but I qualified her a bit and she replied with "thanks, you're such a nice genuine guy!"

(Mental lookup in bitch dictionary):

Main Entry: nice
Pronunciation: \ˈnīs\
Function: adjective
Meaning: Sexy

Main Entry: genuine
Pronunciation: \ˈjen-yə-wən, -(ˌ)win, ÷-ˌwīn\
Function: adjective
Meaning: Great in bed


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PostPosted: Wed Feb 17, 2010 3:28 am 
vulnerability comes with comfort


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