| Tonight I went to a party with a few friends. It wasn't a loud bashes, just about 15 friends at a girl's birthday party. We hung out, played some group games, etc. A few of us where drinking (I wasn't) just sipping beers and chilling. Enter the girl. HBBlonde. A little heavy, but a nice rack, which her low cut shirt advertised. Shares the house with the birthday girl. I was with my LTR of two years, who I have an absolute loyalty (and love) to. I had decided beforehand not to run game at the party. Nothing direct, indirect, canned, etc. Just me and my natural self.
At the beginning of the party, I made some pretty sarcastic comments to HBBlonde (sure, call 'em negs), which she instantly made clear she didn't like me. Who cares, right? As the night went on, I didn't check her out, gave her no attention, no IOI's, wasn't affected by the cleavage she was flaunting. She began giving me some heavy eye contact, even though I wasn't giving any back. The night wore on; she was giving me pretty obvious IOI's like playing with hair, eye contact, trying to lock me into conversations, even making an occassional snappy comment to my girl. I politely acted as if she was just another blank face in the world. By the end of the night, I *felt* her attraction to me even if I was across the room in a different conversation, and it was obvious she didn't want my girl around. Party over, we left. I get a nice ego boost.
Moral of the story:
YOUR FRAME MATTERS MORE THAN ANYTHING ELSE.
I was wearing a wrinkled T-shirt and jeans. My only peacocking item was a small black necklace I always wear. I used no material. Didn't AMOG anyone. Was not the life of the party. Pretty much everything that PUA says to do, I didn't. Still generated attraction. Why?
1. STRONG FRAME BEATS. You can *try* really really hard to get a girl to like you, but if you KNOW you are an attractive guy who can have whatever he wants, she will fall all over herself for you. Even if you don't feel that way (I wasn't feeling it), you simply have to act that frame out and you will get results.I didn't care what she thought of me, it didn't matter what outcome the night would have, and I wasn't affected by her looks (and chest) like a normal guy would. It's not about DOING anything. It's about BEING someone.
2. ALPHA MALE CHARACTERISTICS WORK. I was very preselected (LTR hanging on me), and my body language was tight. Every now and then, I would walk over to my girl and touch/ kiss her for a few seconds, then walk away as if nothing happened. I demonstrated the Provider by giving her a seat on the couch, moving her a few times so she was more comfortable, etc. As long as you are doing things that *could* DHV you, it doesn't matter if you are doing it in front of a set or not. Value is value. Simply *being* high value is not a turn on/turn off thing. Turn it on and leave it on. You can't be high value in this set and not in this one.
3. COMMUNICATION IS 80% NONVERBAL. Ross Jeffries in an interview suggested watching "The Dog Whisperer." Best body language advice ever! As long as you are in a "calm, assertive state" everyone and everything will notice. Only humans communicate with words, and words are only a fraction of interactions. Tight body language SCREAMS attractiveness to women- your best material is nothing compared to your best body language. Stop talking with your mouth and use the rest of you!
4. This post is meant to illustrate that your perspective should not be so heavily tied to the nuts and bolts of the attraction machine. Don't strain after gnats. As long as you have a good energy, the minute details work themselves out. Relaxing and simply *being* you accomplishes far more than the average newbie can imagine. Just keep a strong frame- everything else can be built up afterwards.
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