This didn't happen to me, but a friend of mine i'm talking with on MSN right now.

He's talking to this girl that likes him a lot. i think he kinda likes her too. So the girl says to him that she doesn't want to be in a relationship right now. She's been single for a good while too btw if that means anything.

So is that a shit test? How would you respond to it? I think he already failed miserably by saying that "Well then i respect your decision"

Do you think that her statement should have really been taken at face value, and she really doesn't want the relationship??

I would have gone with something along the lines of:

"Whoa whoa, slow down there, who said anything about a relationship?. But if your not ready to hang out and have a good time I guess I am talking to the wrong person ".

But I'm still new to this so I could be waaaay wrong.

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Regards,

The Enforcer.

The game is easy to start, the referee blows the whistle. It's where you go from there that matters.

Like with any shit test there are many ways to deal with them. I usually ignor them for awhile by talking on and forgetting about them. Chances are she will to and then u disarmed her! Sometimes she will remember and then u can just give something off like SHE is trying to rush into things.

Ok, what would you say if you actually believed that she wasn't really interested in a relationship (which may very well be the case)?

I don't think it matter, I think what matters is that you pass the shit test and in the process throw a little disqualifier. It's a fine line between winning and LJBF, but what she thinks at this point is not important. Whether she wants a relationship NOW or not, if your friend captures her imagination she will forget that very quickly.

That being said I would love to be corrected on this by someone more knowledgable than myself.

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Regards,

The Enforcer.

The game is easy to start, the referee blows the whistle. It's where you go from there that matters.

"When the right guy comes you will change your mind in a split of second, but on the other side its nothing bad in being single like lotz of ppl think"

I would answer something like that... You cant be wrong because you agree with both (being single or in relationship) . It is very not defined answer if she wanted any answer

If she doesn't want a relationship then you respect that.

It wasn't a shit test, it's not trying to directly disqaulify him. If it turns out he can change her mind so be it. But until then it doesn't really matter.