Hey Adam
Im in college. Im a second semester Junior and I'm in a fraternity that throws crazy parties. I'm social, funny, and I love to party. I go out atleast twice a week. I know this sounds like a online dating profile but the reason why I'm saying this is because I constantly here everyone say college game is so much easier than real word game. Now I am doing pretty good but I'm tired of that I wanna do great... really great. I want to look back when I am in the real world doing cold approach which sucks btw compared to this and say " atleast college was insane."

I took your bootcamp and because of it I am now over approach anxiety and could really care less about rejection/ There is just one thing I really do care about and thats my reputation/ In college just like all closed off societies such as school, work and chruch your reputation is everything. I never wanna be known as that creepy guys who hits on every girl or the that guy that walks up to everyone to make forced conversation. Now mabe I could do this myself but by the time I have figured it all out college may be over. Your the number one pickup artist in the world and your bootcamp was one of the best investments Ive ever made so I'm gonna ask you how do I become "that guy." Now lets say I'm in class or walking around Is it wierd of me to strike of a conversation then use a justification to get a number on a mass scale ( by this I mean 10+ approaches a day) I go to a school of about 12000 and my biggets thing is just that if I apprach to many woman or appraoch a girl in a manner not usually seen, such as a girl sitting and studying, Ill get a reputation as the guy that appraches tons of woman which could be seen as creepy mabe or is this all in my head? I have all the tools good lifestyle, decently high social proof, a good understanding of the game, but I just dotn know how to implement them on a mass scale so I need your help.

Also once I get there how do I keep contact with all those pple cuz rite now Im having trouble keeping in contact with 4 or 5 girls?

I know this is quite the question and I know I am asking a lot but I figured if anyone would know how to get this done you would.

O and if your rlly feeling generous could you break down ( not just for me but for anyone who ever reads this post) Exactly what makes a guy creepy in a girls eyes other than the obvious? As in how far can you go before its creepy suchh as wait around to talk to her if shes on the phone or go across teh room to talk during the day.

Stephen
New York Bootcamp

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Hey Adam-

I'm a former bootcamp student and since my game has improved a lot... but now I'm getting stuck on some things I find...

I'm still unclear as what to how to properly sexually escalate in terms of rewarding her for qualifying herself to you; can you give me examples of some ways to better VERBALLY escalate .. It seems logical that you start small at first and then build to more sexual comments as she accepts.. but where do you even start? Do you just say "wow, thats hot..look at you" after she tells you something cool about her?

One other thing; I'm having trouble with my 'inner game' I'm finding... I think I naturally tend to be a perfectionist for some reason... in terms of 'classical conditioning' I think I tend to unconsciously 'punish' myself when I mess up.. so this is hard because I know I'm gonna F- things up a lot starting out, so that 'knowing' or expectation seems to be holding me back and making excuses to not get my arse out there and practice!!... what's the best way to just let yourself have fun and not attach your identity to what happens? What are some ways to 're-condition' my brain to have fun with this and see it as enjoyable rather than 'hard painful work'... I read your diary, and read about how you went out 7 hours a day every day- that's a lot of sets! I assume that not EVERY approach when great at first (who knows, maybe I'm wrong tho..lol) -- but how did you stay motivated when things DIDN'T go well at all?

Hey thanks for your help!

Brian

oh by the way adam thanks for chattin with use yesterday during the webinar that was awesome to be able to ask you things directly, your a big help. amanda is amazing aswell you both very knowledgeable

cheers mate
mR.e

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Hi Adam,

Im a 14 year old that just got into the game. I've read about speed seduction, mystery method, and a load of other crap and yours seems to make the most sense. Being a freshman in a VERY SMALL high school (like 90 kids in our grade), its really hard to practice gaming chicks. On top of that, I'm a minority and also marked as socially awkward. Some chicks at my school are pretty hot, but they act as if everything you say is to hit on them (when I legitimately just want to talk and be friends) and answer everything with a scoff, because they have been called "hot" all their lives. My grade actually has a lot of naturals and I can see that the things they do are very similar to your teachings. I can't go to clubs, and I can't drive so my options of practicing are very limited. Because I'm so young, I can't approach random people because they view me as a kid. Should I forget about PUA until junior year (when I can drive)? Also, as I'm new, please tell me how to start.

Thanks so much,
Kevstheman

Hi Adam,

I'm 22 living in London. A friend and I have started going out in field to clubs seriously since the new year. Loving your stuff as I can relate to it far more due to cultural similarities.

We've managed to get ourselfs consistently getting into top clubs and for free(which helps alot) I live with two girls (hotties) who are great firends of mine, and who can often bring other girls. Also im working on building friendships with sets I open in order to hopfully get them coming out with us too. Im at a stage where I really want to be taking big groups of girls to clubs in order to aim at getting tables for free as I notice that's where alot of attention revolves.

So my questions are:
- Roughly how many girls do I need to be bringing in consistently in order for the club to ever be inclined to do this?
- How do I get noticed as "the guy" who is bringing these hotties? did you ever talk to the managers about this?
- When you refer to getting given a table, did many drinks come free too?

Thanks for everything!

Hi Adam,

I've progressed with the girl as far as possible without kissing. Handling boobs, smakcin ass, sensually biting neck, pulling hair, even sleeping together, the list goes on. But we havn't kissed yet.

I know she wants to but she has a BF. She's told me that she doesn't like him, he's away for 3 months and she likes me more.

How do I balance 'taking away' from her with still pushing forward sexually?

How do you open a group of 4 SHB10? What kind of value can you give them and not be seen as needy while doing this, as you are saying that you should give a value to the group at first.

How did you keep it so down to earth attitude and still being able to act like you're the PRIZE? How do you control your ego?



Oh yeah and total respect for being one of the best PUA's and still being able to answer questions on this forum.

Dejan

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Hey Adam, I have a question about sexual escalation. From reading a lot of your material I understand that you like to make friends with a girl first and to check out the girls in her social circle first before escalating. I hear other PUA instructors saying that when a 'window opens' you have to escalate or else the girl loses interest through thinking you're too nervous to go through with it. My question is how do you keep the girl attracted if you 'miss' these windows for you to escalate without seeming like it's just because you're too pussy to go for it?

Hey Adam

Hows it going? I hear that you escaped from england to live out in america... lucky bugger lol.

I just got a quick question... I've been doing a little daygame/street game recently and have been getting improving results but whats really holding me back is the initial transition from my opener, for example my opener would be excuse me do you know where topshop is?... after they give me directions I dont know where to go from there if they....

A) dont have an accent or ethnicity I can comment or relate to

or

B) aren't wearing an interesting item of clothing or accessory I can comment on

how would I go about transitioning from this opener if I cant comment with these latter examples.

Thanks in advance.

Scorpio

Hi Adam and fellow PUAs, here is a question:

my background: I've been in the game for a half a year, gotten better socially, understand social dynamics quite well. In general girls like me. I was told that I am an attractive and intelligent guy.

my situation: I am an MBA (graduate) student at one of the top business schools in my city. Recently got accepted. I am trying to build a nice social circle in my school to gain easy access to female students of the college.

Tonight I attended an undergraduate event at the bar on campus. I was surprised by a favorable f/m ratio (>1) and concentration of cute girls. I came to a bar with my male classmate. He is not very socially active, but isn't shy when it comes to talking to girls - just not proactive.
We were hanging out at the bar and I was talking to almost every girl that passed by to order a drink. When there were no girls near by - I talked to a bartender. I was leaning against the bar, laughing, joking, gesturing when it was appropriate - i.e. was trying to project myself as a confident, socially calibrated, high value guy.
I was pretty successful at chatting up random girls that were walking by - some of them would come back and hang out.I also noticed girls giving me IOIs from across the room. However I wasn't proactively approaching sets, that were standing farther away from me. The reason for it was that there were no clear cut sets - everyone kinda knew everyone because they all live on campus. Therefore potential for an external interrupt was always high. Also, I didn't want to be a weird grad student that came to an undergrad party to make friends. In situation like this I COULD NOT turn on my PUA "I will never ever see them again" - mentality cause I don't want to ruin my reputation on campus.

How would do you recommend gaming environments like this without putting my reputation and social status in danger?

I have a question not about pickup, but about your lifestyle. First, let me say two pieces of information:

1. You are a master PUA and you have a wife

2. I am in a place where I am a decent PUA, and I have a GF who wants to be married. I love her dearly, but I won't marry her at this point because I feel like it would take away a lot of the motivation for me to improve myself socially.

How do you balance being able to have basically any woman you want, with being married? Have you had open relationships? And can you just briefly discuss your relationship dynamic.


Thank you. I am very interested in how a master PUA handles indefinate commitment.

Hey Adam, my name is also Adam.haha Anyway I'm 29 and had a question about managing 2 relationships. Dating 2 girls, ones 25 and gives me emotional stability but the sex sucks, and the other is 20 and is awesome in bed. I can't decide which one I like better so I'm dating both of them equally, flip flopping nights and it actually is working pretty well, seems like it creates the right amount of distance to keep the attraction high. But I'm not that kind of guy and it's starting to weigh on my heart. I like both girls equally and it's getting difficult to manage my feelings when I'm with the other girl. I've been with the 25 yr. for about 2 months and the 20yr. for about 3.5 weeks. Any advice is helpful. Thanks!!!

Hello Adam ,
Thanks for visitin the chat the other week was really informational.
My question is very simple:

How do you open mixed sets ? and what is the best way to do it ?What is your best material for mixed sets?

Im afraid using opinion openers can get you caught these days...

hope you can fill me in.

Thank you and god bless you bro

Thanks for the advice,i guess it looked weird if i didn't always go back to comfort.
Now I'll try to make this question quick : i did the mistake of not meeting a girl right away after i got her contacts,and while chatting online for a pretty long period there is a lot of investment going on(and therefore a lot of pressure on the dates).We used to meet up for small things like 2,3,10 minutes then we went on a date that was like 2 weeks ago, and now she seems to be finding reasons not to go out with me(you told a guy in this topic that sending mixed messages could make girls be more defensive,and i might be guilty of that too).However I am bored of long online chatting,as it is going either to nowhere either to a stupid argues.I am also bored of meeting her for 2,3,10 minutes because i can't SE like superman.I cannot keep this as interesting as it was,if it's going backwards.Is this a dead set ?
Thx a lot man

Hey Adam,

I've watched a few of your day game approaches and noticed that you didn't seem to break rapport, and yet were still very successful (of course ). I haven't really seen any of your videos in a club, but based on my experience and that of what I've seen and read I feel breaking rapport in the club (being cocky funny and what not) is very affective.

Is this one of the differences between day game and club game? Do you feel that breaking rapport in the day isn't necessary?