We all write success stories or ask for advises. I thought of starting this thread for guys to share their SHORT stories or of someone we've witnessed go through heart breaks and real pain in the world of dating

My very close friend back in school (dont know where he is now !) had a crush on this girl and boy was that a classic case of oneites !! So they started off well and after a month the girl broke off with him. I being his close friend then had to listen to his heart break. They were on and off for the entire year and everytime she'd break off with him he ended up getting more hurt. She even went to the extent of flirting with guys that our group didn't get along with and she did it in front of him !!

I had never seen a guy shed tears like I saw him and the worst part was there was nothing I could do except for just witness all this happen infront of me. After school she went to another city but for some reason he thought that they had osmething which was unfinished. And so HE WAITED for her !! Every town or city that we visited he ended up picking up something for her hoping that when she returns he would be able to give her those gifts and tell her how much he missed her - Yeah I told tell him that he out of his mind but no one can rationalize with a guy in 'LOVE'.

Then one day after about 3 yrs while I had already left to another city he wrote to me telling me that he had established contact with her but by then she already had a boyfriend. They kept in touch for sometime it seems and now looking back at the way she treated him makes me think of it as an excellent example of Push/Pull. He was miserable again and heart broken, only this time he ended up hating girls !

This is a classic case of oneites that I had witnessed in a guy. I wish I could have helped him. But even today thinking of him, and witnessing how miserable he was emotionally makes me realise how strong emotions could be and how tough the world of dating could be on some people.

So have any of you guys seen someone go through this or have yourself experienced anything like this ?

These are some fucked up storys....I can't believe people actually did this type of shit for women...Man i'm glad I got into PUA before I pulled some stupid shit like this.

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There are many stories of that kind.

I have a friend who was really really into this one girl. She was interested but couldnt make up her mind. So she was nice to him first and then went completely cold. Thats the way it went, hot cold hot cold for a long time.
He was so happy to meet her every time and she kept disappointing him and he was constantly feeling sad. In the end he got over it but that was just she removed herself from his life.

The only explanation I can give is that he was not good enough for her but she wanted a backup plan.

As for the story of the OP. I dont think we wanna go that far in our push-pull. We dont wanna hurt anyone remember.

Yeah those are horror stories.

But thankfully, the heart mends itself. There is no such thing as one true love or any BS like that. Sometimes we just get attached, and sometimes for a very good reason too.

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-- Jay --

On the lower side of your palm, between the pinkie and the "emotion line" is what the World of palmistry refers to as the "marriage line". If you learn to read this line well enough, you can pretty much tell the relationship(s) that anybody as had, when they had them, the quality of those relationship(s), who broke up with who, and use it as a measure to predict future relationships. . . and yup, you can even predict haunting "oneititises" that F with the person's future relationships.

The way that this is interpreted is not so much in the hocus pocus fashion of predicting when a mysterious figure enters a person's life but more in a sense of personal evolution; it is more about the PERSON him/herself, where he/she is at that time in her life, state of self management, willingness to be open minded, forgive, accept, and offer love.

In essence, when YOU are ready, you can live in harmony with just about ANYBODY out there. When you are not ready, you will only set yourself for heartache and suffering even if you were to meet somebody who you'd think would be "perfect".

In many ways, our little game has a lot to do with learning to be ready and demonstrating this state to others. Unfortunately, some will NEVER be "ready". Heartbreak is really a self inflicted wound.

pff yeah ,... i agree with kasabi

first time you break up you feel bad ... second time you already care less , you choose to be a victim /generalizing woman etc only makes it harder to feel better.
one thing for sure... guys who are really in touch with themselfs always have better relationships than guys who are easily AFC. you can live anyone, what can you take ? after living with coke whores, cheating GF's and all that bad shit nowadays i can easily communicate with those problem types just because im stabil enough to take their shit.
lol i got a horror story of my own.....

in college ( she was in my class ) i dated a girl and after a few weeks she rejected me in a fucking harsh way. if you have one-itis and you have the girl you like around you all day you go crazy. The next ex-GF was fucknig ridiculious very very long story but in the end she was pregnant but i found out she cheated about 3 weeks before we broke up. the guy she cheated with was in my college class as well .... do you know how fucking demoralizing... one ex-GF in your class, the cheating dude from the other ex-GF who is in my class - and my ex-pregnant GF on my school as well. fucking horrible and i dropped from school because i couldn't take that shit ... big problem was .. i had one-itis on both girls. im glad i didn't kill that dude...... after all of this i became this '' fuck it all'' '' all woman suck '' dude. Right now im laughing at this shit ... both girls and that guy are sooo fucing chode ... it's ridiculious .

It's funny.. after some time you reach a treshold and at that treshold your reality breaks down including your mind. My treshold is 10 times higher right now... chicks or guys who talk crap about me .. i don't care anymore. also funny how you can change in a negative way, i took me alot of months to find my real self again, but here i am much ;stronger right now. me and alot of friends had bad shit... im writing a book right now about some experiences... when i reflect back on those i feel like it was nothing.

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my partner of 5 years and which at the time we were engaged and happy or so i thought one day tells me she no longer loves me and wants to separate so i guess that it being so unexpected also helped to leaving me quite devastated....and i guess i still think about it every now and then though quite less

So what do you do to get over the onitis? What if you are a AFC and cant just go out and bang 10 other girls? what if the oneitis girl is literally the one and only girl that is in your life? even though (in some cases) years of just LJBF, you still hold out that one day she will fall into your arms..

I for one, and I'm sure a few others on this site suffer from this!

Then you just do what girls do. Buy a big bucket of icecream, call a friend, watch a movie, cry a bit and go out with your friends. It is not wrong to feel sad and hurt, it is normal. What is wrong is letting it control your life, giving it too much power over your reality. Treat it as it is, a sense of loss, a failure to achieve something you really wanted. Porcess the pain and when you hit rock bottom, go up again.

heartbreaks are the reasons were all here

Dont mean to bring this thread up but wanted to share a quick tale about a guy a met a month back at a bar, for some reason I was just thinking of his experience and it got me somber- thought would share...

All of 20 yrs of age he went to fight for his country(not from the US). At home he had his childhood girl whom he basically grew up with. They played together, studied together and it was one of those childhood romances that he thought would eventually lead to a marriage. When the war broke he was called to his airforce base while she waited for him back home. His words were: We exchanged letters regularly telling each other how much we missed each other, made plans for the future etc.. Anyways, at war he ended up being a on the other side of the border(tech. that I didnt understand) but his family was informed that he was dead.

Two years later when he returned she was already married and expecting a kid it seems ! He till date doesnt know whom to blame his fate or.......

Talk about heart breaks...

Disagree...different people are here for different reasons, some because they are intrigued, some because they want to get better socially, some to learn how to get better with women, some just for heck and then may be some after heartbreaks

Thanks for sharing that story Marc, it was really good.