Hi guys,

Am in a dilemma and dont know what to do even though I've thought long and hard about this. Here's the simplified scenario.

- She's 33 (I'm 23)
- Work coleague
- Split up from a long relationship about 1 year ago
- Always felt attracted to her and everyone I know wants to bang her
- Likes the same things as me, music, films, and clicked on from the begining
- Staff xmas party I got with another chick who was damn ugly to get to her coz she was with another man...she ended up being jealous but left with her anyway. - Took her to the office (yes, office) where we ended up partying by ouselves. Kissed and nearly fucked her if it wasnt for an intrusion!
- A few weeks later go up to her house, dined, drank etc and finally talked...it's amazing how much people tell you when they're naked!!
- More of the same for a few more times, last time was about 1 month ago, she still has my watch by the way!
- Stepdad dies about 1 week after and didnt see her but got txtng and last time I even tried was 1 week back where I asked her when I was going to see her again and she stopped replying even though she was txtng me straight away a few mins before for something she needed.

Now might be a bit long but I'm a little confused, I knew from the first day that something like this was going to happen as I had never felt that attracted in a long time. She used to say I'm her perfect man, if only I was a bit older etc etc but I get the impression she has gone a bit cold, haven't asked if she's seeing anyone else but I would want her to find someone closer to her age and be happy but at the same time I just love spending time with her...sex was alright, not great by the way but just being around her was good enough. She's chatty, beautiful, loads of energy and a socialite, meaning very well connected. I knew as soon as she said those words that she's liked me for a very long time and never had the courage to ask me that this was going to be messy!


It probably wasnt very brief but for anyone who even bothered to read the whole thing let me know what you suggest.

Profumo!

Seems like she was interested... You sure she isn't seeing someone now? Hence her not replying when asking to meet, women do that shit alot. To keep options open for them and not to fall into some kind of trap.

I'd play the waiting game. Wait a few days since last contact, then just send a text asking how she is, bring up some convo like that, depends how serious you want to take her.

Cheers Chelios,

She had to be interested i suppose...ain't sure if she is seeing anyone, not taking the possibility out of it. Been waiting for a while mate, trouble is I always have to speak at her at work over the phone mostly as she moved office for a while, don't wanna text her as feel like I'm trying too hard, want her to text me to be honest, that way I know she's still interested.

Still, I've found a new job and will be leaving next month, thinking of asking her what the situation is then, see where we stand and that.

Head tells me not to even bother with this one...too old for me to settle down but like I said, been more than 2 years since I felt this way about some chick and theres been a few!

Sometimes you have to go with gut instinct, just clocked your a Londoner too.

Well play some of the waiting game, don't even ask if she's seeing anyone. This'll show that you actually care if you do. Keep cool and composed, and when she speaks, game her.

Yeah mate, South London here. looks like I might have to wait for her to come to me...at 33 she's definitely seen them come and go so might do something different from the rest. Will let you lot know what happens.

Respect for that anyway mate, been a good start.

Anyone else out there don't be afraid to let me know what u think!

No problem, I'm 21, been with women unto the age of 30, and one thing I have learnt before learning the game is that women can turn on and off like a tap and are so unpredictable that's why the guys who lock them down are the ones that are always loved and never forgotten!

If your up for sarging up central sometime let me know!

Yeah mate you're right, shit happens I suppose and you just have to deal with different situations as they come. I'm up for sargin mate, PM me your facebook and details and I'll get in touch, would be good to share some tips in person!

Sorted if anyone was holding their breath on the outcome. She mentioned she's seeing someone and makes me feel good...hopefully he ain't some psycho as she has a tendency to go for those types (me excluded of course).

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In a way unlucky for you but fuck her man, giving you mixed messages, freeze her out now and give her the cold shoulder.. Plenty more women wanting a bang out there.