Hi

Sorry to ask such a seemingly stupid question, but for me I really need some help with it.

OK, So I wanna take a girl out for a meal (nothing fancy, maybe a pub meal or some normal restaurant). The thing is, I’ve never done this before. As a long time AFC with no confidence the whole idea of taking a girl out to a public place just scares the hell out of me. How am I supposed to act? Are there any particular movie/tv scenes anyone can think of for the right way to do things? I get the feeling I’m gonna just look like a complete amateur and the whole place (staff, other diners, her) will just see right through me.

I have the same worry about taking a girl to the cinema.

I'm 26 btw if that's relevant

Any advice would be great!

Thanks!

Cinema and dinner isn't a bad idea but kind of "expected/boring". One of the best pieces of advice I picked up from this place was when taking a girl out for the first time take her on some kind of "Adventure Date". Some kind of activity that will envolve you both having a lot of fun and showing her you are a lot of fun. Things like Go karting, rockclimbing, an exciting tour/adventure of the town you live in (or something in your town like a castle or a cool beach where you can have a picnic etc). Things like going to the zoo, concerts or comedy clubs is a good idea as well.

I think if you google looking for ideas then you'll find more ideas. I think one of the most important things and its easier said than done is to not be nervous about taking a girl out, just go and have as good a time as you can, show her what she's missing out on by not being with you and having you in her life. Also be Spontaneous and adventurous give her the impression your willing to try almost anything and show her that you live life like no other guy she's ever met before and I think if you maintain that kind of vibe she'll become much more attracted to you.

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Thanks for the adivce mate.

I might take her to a zoo or something then..

One problem, I'm not the life and soul of any party and am pretty boring. HOwever, when we just chat we do have a great laugh together, but I can't really see myself as being a "goof" to make people laugh.

Any ideas on what to do?!

Firstly mate she obviously wants to date you for a reason, secondly install some confidence into yourself because of this. Time to game her, you be the lead, I'd agree on doing something fun/adventurous especially if your worries. Then natural jokes and comedy will come out. I bet you do alot better than you think.

Cheers Chelios

That really is good straight forward advice, especially "install some confidence into yourself" line.

Straight forward and to the point!

Cheers!

No problem mate. Just make sure you lead the way with her, when she asks what to do, have an idea, a suggestion. You be the Alpha, women may deny it, but they like a man who takes authority (from experience and the game). You'll be fine.

Cheers again mate

Just one thing..How do I act with authority /take the lead if its in her city and it's the first time I have been there?

Well that could be tough. I'd say just lead her by being straight and doing what you want to do, maybe find out what's in her city.

don't put so much pressure on yourself, she said she'd go on a date with you, just have fun with it, there'll be other girls

make her pay for herself.

but start with the idea that she's paying for you to, so then you compromise to her paying for herself.

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Hey

Just thought I would let you know how it went on Friday...

So we went to a pub, I wasn't as nervous as I thought but still, I don't think it went too well..
All the time I was just trying to think of things to talk about but in the end just kept asking her questions and luckily she had a lot to talk about. There were a few akward silences, where I just looked around trying desperately to think of something to say..

she was smiling a lot and making long eye contact, I managed to keep the eye contact and we were both laughing a lot. I didn't try anything though.

Whenever she asked about me I just ended up giving short, kinda mumbled answers. As it turns out, I really don't have any interesting stories to tell, and lead a very boring life. We've known each other a while though and she knows this already pretty much. But she is my oneitus big time!

I just get the impression that this meeting has left me exposed in her eyes as the major AFC that I am (even though she dont know the term).

I wasn't fun and interesting. Didn't manage to look mega confident. Didn't try anything.. man, it's been on my mind ever since, I'm gutted

the only issue there is that you didn't try anything.

silences happen. But being a pussy is something you can control.

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